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Self-Discipline

7 Benefits Of Self-Discipline

Self-Discipline

Every day we have choices to make. Wake up early and go to the gym, or get an extra hour of sleep? Pack a healthy lunch to take to work, or buy something when lunchtime rolls around?

Throw a little extra money in your savings account, or buy that new gadget or pair of shoes you’ve been eyeballing all month?

Deep down inside, we know which actions will yield the best results. Yet many of us struggle with making the best decisions – and fail to reach our full potential as a result. How do we overcome these challenges? Self-discipline is the answer.

Why Is Self-Discipline Important?

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If you want to be successful and reach your goals, self-discipline is the most crucial skill to master. Frequently, the best choices aren’t the fastest, easiest, or most pleasant.

So you must exercise a high level of control over your emotions and behavior.

Improving your ability to do what is best for you regardless of initial desire is the only way to make consistent progress in life.

As such, if self-discipline is your foundational skill, you grow more effective in everything you do.

7 Benefits Of Self-Discipline

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When you develop a stronger sense of self-control, you can expect multiple improvements across many areas of your life including health, success, relationships and more, so it is a really important skill to learn how to master, don’t you think?

Here are 7 benefits of self-discipline.

1- Improved Health

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First, improving your self-discipline leads to improved physical health.

Exercising control over the quality and quantity of food you consume, establishing a regular fitness routine, and drinking enough water help you maintain a healthy weight, reduce your chances of illness and disease, and increase your chances of longevity and vitality later in life.

With better health comes increased energy and a better sense of well-being which will help you to get more done and have more success which leads us nicely into point number 2.

2- Greater Academic/Career/Business Success

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Next, self-discipline helps you make choices that lead to higher academic and career success.

Sometimes you must choose between studying longer hours and spending time out with friends, or staying late after work to complete a project and heading home to relax.

Self-discipline helps you see the value of delayed gratification, which pays off down the line.

This is especially important if you are an entrepeneur/solopeneur; you must be able to focus on the long term strategy for your business and practice delayed gratification by ploughing any profits you make in the beginning back into your business.

3- Better Relationships

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Third, self-discipline improves your relationships because you become a person who follows through on your commitments.

People in your life learn they can trust you to do what you say you will, and they view you more favorably.

If you keep your word, people will respond to that but if you are someone who says one thing but does another, this will make people think you unreliable or maybe even dishonest, so having the self-discipline to keep to your commitments will really help all types of relationship flourish.

4- Better Financial Health

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Next, gaining better control over your finances is another direct benefit of self-discipline and this one cannot be underestimated!

While it’s more fun to spend money than it is to save, the disciplined individual sees the long-term benefit of putting money away for a rainy day.

It is linked to point 2 above where you practice delayed gratification now to have a better reward later.

That’s not to say you pinch pennies and sacrifice quality of life.

Self-discipline isn’t supposed to make you miserable. Instead, it’s about weighing the pros and cons and making decisions that bring you closer to your goals.

Examples of financial self-discipline that don’t require total restriction include regularly putting a certain percentage of each paycheck into your savings account or sticking to a budget that allocates a certain amount of money each month for discretionary spending. You still get to enjoy the present, though, not at the expense of your future.

5- Fewer Regrets

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Another benefit of growing more self-disciplined is that you’ll have fewer regrets because you make better choices in the first place.

You’ll eliminate such problems as saying the wrong thing at the wrong time because you’re disciplined enough to think before speaking.

You’ll avoid jumping to conclusions, give yourself time to gather information before making decisions, and make choices based on facts rather than emotion or opinion.

This will also affect how you live and enjoy life. You will need to takes risks occasionally, but they should be considered risks.

You don’t want to be one of those people who ends up saying things like “If only I…” or  “What if…” and has so many regrets in their life.

Use your self-discipline to make informed choices and to make great decisions to move you life in the way you want.

6- Better Time Management

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With an ever-growing list of things vying for our attention, it seems that time is often in short supply.

One of the best benefits of self-discipline is improved management of your time.

For example, social media can be the ultimate time-killer if you don’t exercise self-control.

While it can be useful at times, you can easily fall into the trap of mindlessly scrolling through news feeds when you could be completing other tasks.

You’ll avoid jumping to conclusions, give yourself time to gather information before making decisions, and make choices based on facts rather than emotion or opinion.

It is a real positive feedback loop which can have a dramatic impact on the way you achieve the things you really want.

7- Increased Resilience

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Finally, self-discipline helps you complete tasks and projects that you start, even when you lose steam or desire.

Motivation is always high at the beginning of a new goal.

Whether it’s a new diet plan, a new business idea, or even new relationships to a certain degree, when things are fresh, there is nothing but excitement and stimulation ahead.

Yet over time, motivation fades, challenges arise, reality sets in, and its tempting to go back to something more familiar or move on to the next shiny object.

Exercising self-control and choosing to finish what you start, within reason, even when you lose motivation and desire means you not only have the finished project under your belt, but you’ve learned lessons and acquired skills you wouldn’t have had you quit.

Final Thoughts

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As the American writer, philosopher and artist, Elbert Hubbard once said, “Self-discipline is the ability to do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.”

Understanding the importance of self-discipline, then taking steps to improve this most critical skill is perhaps the best thing you can do for your personal development and likelihood of lifetime success.

These 7 factors may seem like small things when taken individually but they stack up and if you do manage to get a hold of your self-discipline, you should see a dramatic impact on the way you live your life and what you can achieve and isn’t that worth it?

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Give Up

Do You Give Up Too Easily?

Taking The Easy Way Out By Giving Up

Give Up

When we are confronted with situations in our lives, one of the easiest ways to handle it is to give up. It’s too hard; we tell ourselves.

It’s easy to get to a point where it seems as though all that time you’ve invested in a dream or goal and the time till its fruition can be very daunting and even unobtainable.

There will be times of excitement, enthusiasm, creativity, but they can quickly be followed by despair, discouragement, and the desire to quit.

The trouble is, those situations often get worse because we choose not to confront them. They may take some time and especially perseverance. That is the main reason why we choose not to deal with them.

It’s just simpler to bury your head in the sand, but you’ll never grow if you keep doing this and you won’t have the kind of life that you truly want and deserve.

So, why do we give up so easily?

Do You Give Up

In all honesty, I think that us humans are just simply wired to want to give up; sad, I know, but it appears to be true nonetheless!

This stems from the fact that we crave instant gratification and if you are striving towards a distant goal, the brain doesn’t like delayed gratification; it wants results and rewards NOW!

So, basically we’re born to look for instant gratification. And this could be for good reason  in the past as we may have needed immediate benefits to ensure our survival. But do we need that instinct now in the modern day world? Not really.

We are very much present-oriented, and so when we’re not getting what we want immediately, we get anxious and want to give up.

Maybe you’re disappointed or tired because you haven’t succeeded yet after lots of trials and attempts with nothing to show for it.

Believe me, you are not alone. I can pretty much guarantee that everyone has experienced this in their lifetime.

But, if you found ways to persevere, those situations would go away before they got out of hand.

If your situation is a financial one where you don’t have the necessary funds, you may need to seek other ways to make money.

Of course, it’s bad enough having to work one job as many people are not happy with their jobs. Adding yet another job into the mix can be a hard pill to swallow.

However, if you focus on the goal of taking care of the situation, this can get you through it. You may only need to work that other job for a temporary amount of time.

Life can get even more difficult for many people as they get older.

When you get past a certain age, you are not as easily employable as you were when you were younger. If you are having trouble finding work after being let go, will you keep going until you find something? There are a fair number of people who will simply give up.

Perhaps you have thought about starting your own business. It’s certainly much easier to do that with the internet these days. This too, takes a lot of work, especially since it is getting more competitive all the time. But, those who put in the time tend to make it happen.

Others, simply quit. It’s interesting to note that people who quit, often do so right before the time where they would start seeing some successes in their business.

We tend to have more medical issues when we are older as well. Taking better care of ourselves requires perseverance and habit changes. Many people will simply throw in the towel and take their chances with their health as they age. 

Whatever situation you find yourself facing, giving up seems to be the easiest option.

It’s not usually the correct choice, however. It can take a commitment both in time and attitude (preparing yourself to be ready) but it can be well worth the effort of knowing that you won’t have to handle worse conditions later.

What Are The Consequences Of Giving Up?

Do You Give Up

The thing about instant gratification is that it is a mirage, an illusion.

When you look at successful people, many think of them as overnight successes but actually NOTHING could be further from the truth!

Most successful people have failed and suffered rejection many times. Did you know that Sylvester Stallone was rejected over 1500 times when he first approached Hollywood with the script for Rocky?

And to make it worse, they offered to make the film for him, but only if he didn’t star in it!! But he stuck to his guns and it worked out for him eventually when Rocky and Stallone became an “overnight success!”

Remember this: If you give up now, you’re giving up the very bright future and great results you can and will get.

So, bear this in mind when you feel low and want to throw in the towel. Don’t suffer for mediocre and live a life of regret. Persevere and do what your future self will thank you for.

If you really feel like giving up remember these 7 points to hopefully keep you on track:

  • Remember why you started in the first place and how much you wanted it.
  • Analyse why you want to give up.
  • Visualise the ultimate goal and reward you’ll get if you persevere.
  • Plan your journey towards your goal and be prepared to modify it if it isn’t working.
  • You are not alone and can find others to support you when it gets tough.
  • Have an attitude if gratitude for what you have got and how far you have come.
  • When planning goals, set small achievable milestones and reward yourself when you hit them. Your brain likes pleasure so this can help you to keep going.

Life can be tough sometimes and it is very easy to give up and live a less than fulfilled life, but you really owe it to yourself to become more resilient and to persevere whenever you encounter any obstacles you meet.

Everyone deserves to have a rich, meaningful life full of happiness and success but it takes work and you must be willing to do whatever to takes to overcome life’s challenges.

As mentioned in the bullet points above, gratitude plays a huge part in how you approach life and if you want to learn  more about gratitude, there are some more posts here and here.

Good luck and NEVER give up 💪

 

 

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Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying!

Stop Beating Yourself Up

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

 Do you make mistakes? Do you make a lot of mistakes?

Of course you do. We ALL make mistakes and this is how we learn and grow as human beings.

So, why is it that when we make a mistake, we spend so much time dissecting and agonising over it and wondering “what if?

Often times, we allow a mistake or wrong decision to negatively impact our lives long after the incidence occurred. By doing so, we end up being unable to actually enjoy the present and take advantage of new opportunities and experiences.

Dwelling over a mistake for extended periods of time can be very detrimental to your way of life.

After all, our time here is limited and each passing moment cannot be replayed or started over. It is difficult to enjoy the newness offered in each day when your mind is constantly troubled by regret and negative self-feedback.

In this post, we will discuss why it is perfectly okay to stop beating yourself up over a mistake and how habitually doing so can affect your own well-being, as well as the people in your life.

And, as the title of this post suggests; if you are making mistakes, it is proof you are trying!

So, here are 3 quick ways to stop beating yourself up over all your mistakes.

 Remember That You Are Human

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

 In case you haven’t noticed, human beings are literally programmed to make mistakes. We are not given an instruction manual at birth detailing the correct way to handle the vast array of decisions and events we experience throughout our lifetimes.

Therefore, it makes no sense to go through life with the intent of being absolutely perfect.

Of course, you should strive to make the right decisions and handle situations to the best of your ability, but only with the knowledge that you will not always do so. Yes, it is fine to make mistakes, really!

Any mistake you end up making should not come as a total surprise, but should instead serve as a reminder that you are a fallible human being, just like the billions of other people around you.

Being human is a beautiful thing. We are capable of so many emotions, creations and discoveries. However, we are far from perfect and mistakes are sure to happen. Always keep that in mind.



Change Your Perspective 

Mistakes

 A great way to avoid beating yourself up over a shortcoming or wrong decision is to not always regard the situation in a negative manner. Instead, try to realize that mistakes are a mandatory part of the learning process.

Reframe your mistakes to this: mistakes are a chance to learn and grow!

Consider this, every single thing you have ever learned how to do with any level of expertise has been achieved through trial and error. This process in no way ends just because you have become an adult.

For as long as you live, you will continue to encounter new situations.

That being said, it is silly to think that, as an adult, you will somehow be able to respond to new situations the right way from the start.

In fact, if you ever reach a point in your life where you fail to make a mistake here and there, this is probably a bad sign. If nothing you do poses a challenge, this means you are at a place of stagnation.

It is important to consider each and every mistake as a lesson that allows you to adjust, modify your actions and do better the next go around.

Treat Yourself As You Do Others!

Mistakes Are Proof That You Are Trying

That sounds like a really strange thing to say doesn’t it?

Well, look at it this way; almost all of us do our best to forgive other people after they have messed up. This is especially true when thinking about the people closest to us.

Sure, we may be upset and even angry for a while, but we usually don’t hold the issue over the offender’s head for long periods of time.

Ironically, we struggle more to forgive ourselves than to do the same for others.

Considering this paradox, try to change your vantage point the next time you are avoiding granting yourself forgiveness.

After all, nobody is closer to you than you.

Knowing that forgiveness is a mandatory part of maintaining external relationships, you must also realize that this requirement holds true for nurturing your own mental environment.

OK, so there are 3 quick ways to get over the mistakes you are making in your life.

If you want to have even more peace and clarity in your life then you should really think about using the practice of mindfulness in your daily life.

If you want to learn more about mindfulness, download a Mindfulness Tips Report for free here

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Brainstorming Techniques

Brainstorming Techniques: How To Do Effective Brainstorming

Brainstorming Techniques

The pressure to come up with ideas can be overwhelming. Constant content creation seems to be a requisite of the workplace these days.

There’s a demand from your boss to find new ways to improve the workplace, your college lecturer wants to see a different approach than anyone else has shown, or you’re an entrepreneur and you recognize that without flagging yourself as someone who stands out different to the rest, you’re going to sink among all the other “me too” product creators.

Can you create a mental spark of new ideas as simply as you see a spark when you touch two wires together? The answer is – you can.

The first thing you need to do is quit thinking of ideas as things that just happen. You’ve heard of brainstorming, right? That’s a situation where people decide to cognitively generate ideas.

They make the decision that they will create ideas within a timeframe – not that they will sit around the office for days, weeks or months waiting on some mysterious Muse to appear and give them a sign.

So, what exactly is brainstorming?

Brainstorming is a method people use to generate ideas to solve clearly defined design problems. In controlled conditions and a free-thinking environment, people approach a problem by such means as “How Might We” questions. They produce a vast array of ideas and you can then draw links between them to find potential solutions.

So, in essence, brainstorming is an activity that helps your organization generate more innovative ideas. Brainstorming is just one of many methods of ideation (the process of coming up with new ideas) and it occurs near the beginning of the creative process.

Brainstorming helps you generate a large number of ideas so that you can produce different options for solving your challenge.

Why Use Brainstorming?

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The complex business challenges of today require new solutions—trying to use what worked in the past simply won’t work any more.

To come up with innovative ideas, it’s important to go beyond your comfort zone. To do that, you’ve got to start with as many options as possible, including some wild ideas, that you can build on and test.

Brainstorming is an effective way to:

  • Get the creative juices flowing in a safe environment
  • Produce a large number of ideas
  • Generate ideas quickly
  • Expand your arsenal of alternative options
  • Get people unstuck
  • Build enthusiasm
  • Solve tricky problems

How do we brainstorm effectively?

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Before we begin, here are a few brainstorming rules:

  • Get everything down
  • Defer judgment
  • Encourage wild ideas
  • Build on the ideas of others
  • Stay focused on the topic
  • Be visual
  • Go for quantity

OK, now you’re ready to gt started, the first thing to do is write down all known facts and assumptions about the subject at hand. Then for each fact or assumption, ask “what if…?” Take the opposing view in your question.

“What if something else could create the same result?”

“What if we didn’t have a specific resource, then how would we create this?”

“What if everyone called in sick one day, then how would we minimize the damage?”

“What if I had only 10 minutes to do this – is there a template I could use over and over again to speed things up?”

Always challenge assumptions.

And remember, anything and everything is on the table; don’t stifle your imagination as you can cull ideas in the next step.

Strip things away

Brainstorming Ideas

Often, we get caught up in finding new ideas to add to the existing processes we have in place. But it’s as valid to think about cutting away ideas as it is creating new ones.

You might have two different products in mind to create, and two different websites to market them through.

But by focusing on cutting out ideas you may discover that there is a core group who require both products – and then build just one website aimed at that core group.

Ideas that take away work are sometimes more beneficial than those that do.

Use different discovery tools

Brainstorming technique

Many people swear by mind maps. Some prefer a word processor document – and others prefer spreadsheets.

Get away from your comfort level by using a different medium to dump your ideas out into. The process will feel different and make your brain respond differently – and often more creatively.

OK, so there are a few techniques that you can use to make the most of your brainstorming sessions.

And you can use this process to create a really strong stand out brand that is instantly recognisable. And if you want to learn more about branding the right way, then check out this free report here.

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Manifestation for money

Manifestation For Money: Does It Work?

Manifestation for money

Everyone has an insight, a voice that comes from within ones soul. This is the voice responsible in influencing and directing us throughout our life.

That voice is constantly telling us “Get up right now! Take charge of your life and manifest your destiny”.

It involves transforming yourself and taking charge of your life. If you stay stagnant then life will not happen for you. You might never experience the true potential of yourself.

Life is not only about the style of living, sleeping, eating, working and travelling but to explore, experiment, observe, thoughtful processes and taking risks towards change.

Change leads to improvement. So an important question is how to improve? How to bring about change within one’s self?

For that purpose, what you need to do is to take actionable steps to improve yourself. Push yourself out of the traditional and comfort zone, family values, controlling powers of other human beings and meet the real you! This will definitely transform your life.

Why does success only come to those who work harder for it?

It is because millions of people have no idea what are they capable of doing. Following conservative ways to live life blindly is no different than being dead, doing nothing and simply copying.

Ask yourself, “Are you a copycat?”

Before even considering using manifestation for money (and anything else for that matter), get ready and be open for change that you have never experienced before. You will be challenged to get out of your comfort zone and live the life that you’ve always dreamt of.

You are free to live in your own unique way with a strong identity rather than being a copy of others. If you strive for change, you can build a world of success of your own.

Shake off the insecurities, confusions and doubts to enhance confidence, power and ability to attain your heart’s desire.

Let’s begin with what we mean by manifestation.

 It refers to the process, an action or an event that clearly enables us to see or show us something abstract or conceptual.

Basically it is indicating the movement of transformation of a mind concept into a reality-based act. That is why we stress upon taking action to bring your thoughts, feelings and ideas into a tangible experience.

You Are Important

Manifestation definition

Your life has a goal, which is to win. Winners are leaders, those who lead life in their own way and leave their legacy behind.

The one thing that holds us back from creating our legacy is in our subconscious mind; our past, our mistakes, our regrets and unpleasant memories. Left unchecked, all of this no doubt holds you back from progressing and achieving what you desire.

The human mind has an inborn tendency to seek and grasp on negativity. Biologically, there is a part of our brain called the “lizard brain” that is the oldest part of our brain stem, responsible for the most basic of instincts; survival. This part of the brain governs our flight or fight attitude towards challenges and breaking comfort zones and is designed to keep us safe from harm.

I know no one really wants to live a life of drudgery, producing nothing, being stuck in a 9 to 5 job doing the same thing over and over again just to pay bills. That is a very distorted and warped version of life. Some people die at 25 years old and don’t get buried until they are 79 years old.

Financial success is a major goal for the majority of people on the planet because having a lack of finances is a real pain point. If you have very little disposable income, it is very difficult to live life to the fullest.

This doesn’t mean you need to strive to be filthy rich, but rather to have a degree of financial independence where you have enough to not worry about it. This is not the same as greed although some folks will call you greedy for wanting more!

We all know how emotive a subject money can be, but don’t be put off; financial abundance is a worthwhile goal to strive for!

Think less, speak less, and observe more with your eyes and your heart. It takes faith, action and the belief that you will succeed.

You will get to where you want to be. Trust in yourself, your capacity and your ability to achieve it.

Never ignore the power of change as this power takes you towards your personal growth.

The key to unlocking your true spirit and road to find the peak of manifestation is to “Be Consistent And Never Give Up” because true change takes consistency and this is how the law of attraction works.

The Law Of Attraction

Law of attraction

As you may be aware, the law of attraction has been around for centuries. In the past, people used to meditate and calm their mind and visualize and force themselves to believe that whatever they wanted was already in existence for them to manifest it in reality.

This was an uphill task because as human beings we’ve been conditioned with negative beliefs since young. These beliefs may have been passed down by our parents, teachers, other adults, friends, etc.

As a result, when we try to believe in the impossible, our subconscious minds do not align with our positive thoughts because deep down we feel like we’re lying to ourselves.

This is the biggest limitation to the law of attraction. We are in our own way.

Thanks to technological advances, we’re now understanding that beta and theta waves can be used to reprogram our mind with positive beliefs and clear out the negative beliefs. It’s akin to starting with a clean slate.

Whether you believe in manifestation or the Law of Attraction or not, it is definitely big business and if you aren’t achieving the levels of success in your own life, it may be worth putting your cynicism to one side and giving it a try. What do you have to lose?

One of the top selling products that uses a set of audios to transform your mind was created by Eddie Sergey and it’s called 15 Minute Manifestation.

15 Minute Manifestation Review

15 Minute Manifestation Review

This product has sold thousands of copies and has been an online bestseller for years. Let’s see why it’s so popular…

The Good Points:

The beauty of 15 Minute Manifestation is its simplicity. Listening to audios is a breeze. No need to write down anything or concentrate and visualize in a meditative pose. If you’re new to reprogramming your mind, this product is perfect for you.

There are many positive reviews and testimonials from customers. This is great social proof that the product works.

15 Minute Manifestation has been an online bestseller for years. That inspires more confidence.

Very often when people try to change their lives with the law of attraction, they’re unable to make much headway because of their limiting beliefs and emotional blockages.

Removing these obstacles on your own is a Herculean task because they’re embedded deep in your subconscious mind.

With the audios in 15 Minute Manifestation, the negative beliefs that are holding you back will be removed when you listen to the first audio in the series – The Natural State. This is a great way to start your journey.

The second audio, ‘Your New Story’ will help you create positive, life changing beliefs so that you elevate yourself to the next level where success is achieved with a lot less effort, since you’re no longer getting in your own way.

In the third audio, ‘Moving Towards Abundance’, your mind will be gently trained to manifest results at an accelerated rate. You’ll start feeling better and notice that positive results are coming every which way you turn. This is a good place to be in.

This step-by-step easy to follow method will encourage consistency. So many people start off motivated with other law of attraction methods, but after a while they stop because they lose interest.

With this method, you can just play the audios and do other stuff while the sounds work on your subconscious mind.

You get 3 audios (15 minutes each) and you need to listen to each audio once every single day for a week. This will last for 21 days which is enough time to make this practice a habit… and you’ll be much more likely to manifest your desires.

A special technology is used to create these ‘theta wave’ audios which are received more easily by your subconscious mind.

The Bad Points:

The sales copy is a little unbelievable and may raise red flags for people who are more cynical.

The whole story about Eddie having brain cancer and curing himself by listening to binaural beats seems a bit far-fetched. It may have been true or maybe it’s just marketing hype. Whatever the case, the product works and the wall of testimonials on the official website is proof of this.

This product is only available online. So, you will need a debit/credit card to purchase it.

Those who prefer reading books to listening to audios may not like this product because it’s completely audio-based.

Should You Get It?

Manifestation meaning

After watching the video on the official website, there’s no denying that the product does seem awesome. The good news is that you can try it risk-free because of the 60-day money back guarantee.

This is more than enough time to effect change in your life by listening to the audios daily. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.

The system itself is easy to follow. Unlike other visualization methods that require concentration, the 15 Minute Manifestation audios program your mind with theta waved with no effort on your part.

So, this product is definitely worth getting and testing. Once you start manifesting what you want in your life, you’ll probably end up becoming one of the positive reviews on that site.

Give it a try and watch your life transform before your eyes.

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Is Happiness A Choice

Is Happiness A Choice?

Is Happiness A Choice

Let me ask you something? Is happiness a choice? Can people really choose to feel happy or not?

There are conflicting studies and opinions about general happiness and choosing to be happy.  Both arguments have merit, but the truth seems to be somewhere in the middle.

There are certain conditions that do affect one’s ability to choose happiness such as depression and other mood disorders. Some people have difficulty controlling emotions, but it’s a skill that can be learned with practice.

Choosing to be happy may seem difficult, but there are things most people can do to increase their level of happiness.

Before jumping right in and learning ways to increase happiness, you need to learn about conditions that may make it difficult to will yourself to be happy.  Depression and other mood disorders, ADHD, PTSD, a disability, grief, or poverty make choosing to be happy more challenging.

If you are dealing with any of these issues, there are still practical ways you can increase your happiness, but it may be more difficult.  Keep in mind that change takes time, but it is achievable.

Choosing To Be Happy

Happiness

Choosing to be happy is more than just willing yourself to feel happy.  Part of it is thinking positively and thinking happy thoughts, but there are also more practical ways to make yourself happier.

Studies have identified several factors of happiness: social relationships, temperament or your ability to adapt, money, society and culture, and positive thinking styles.

Temperament is partly genetic, but it can still be improved with practice.   Below you will learn about some things that you can do in each area to make yourself happy.

Improve Social Relationships 

Be Happy

Improve current relationships by reaching out more often, opening lines of communication about past negative experiences, forgiving or seeking forgiveness, or making more time for your friends and family.

Make an effort to make new friends.  Take on a new hobby, take a class, join a club, or go to different places in order to meet new people.  You can also reach out to others online through social media or dating apps. Don’t be afraid to talk to new people and exchange phone numbers with people you get along with.

Invite friends and family members out for lunch, shopping, or have them over for coffee. Reach out. It can be tempting to wait for others to make the first move so be bold and take the initiative yourself; I’m sure your friends and family will truly appreciate you making the effort to reach out to them.

Improve Temperament And Adaptation

Choose To Be Happy

Practice pausing before you react to something. Give yourself a moment to get your emotions in check so that you respond in the way that you really want to rather than having an outburst.

This is a skill that can have a profound effect on both you and those around you; no-one likes to be around someone who gets moody or angry at the drop of a hat.

So, when something triggers you, pause, take a breath and think about how you would want someone to treat you in this situation.

Learn deep breathing techniques. You can try some guided meditation if you like, but you don’t need to over-complicate this. Mindfulness is a really great way to be calm and in the present.

Try to be more open to other people’s ideas and practice letting go of your need to control.

Improve Your Finances

Happiness Is A Choice

Increase your income by finding a new job, asking for a raise, or taking on a second job. This is not always easy and can be risky, but could definitely be worth it in the long run.

Improve your education so that you can find a better paying jobs. Learning new skills isn’t just for school and the happiest and most successful people are constantly learning new things to help them grow.

Be open to other career paths. It’s very easy to become comfortable in your career, but is it really what you want to do? Being stuck in a job/career that doesn’t inspire you can be a real drain on your happiness; it’s not just about money, but the sense of fulfillment you get out of what you do.

Look for things you can do to earn a passive income. This is where the internet can come in to play.

There has never been a better time to start an online business and this could just be a side hustle to help you make a mortgage or car payment and if you can set up a business with a recurring monthly payment for customers, all the better.

Pay off debt or avoid taking on debt. if you have any debt, but especially large amounts of debt, this should be an absolute priority for you before anything else. This can be quite painful to begin with but you must take responsibility and deal with it and by doing so, you can feel much happier about yourself.

Set a budget and stick with it so you can have money to do the things that are important to you. Linked to the point above about debt, stop spending money that you don’t have on things you don’t need!

Embrace Or Change Society And Culture

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Embrace local culture and society if they’re a positive influence in your life.  Learn, explore, and enjoy your environment and the people you share it with.

Don’t be afraid to change your environment or seek change in your current one.  Do what you can to be a positive influence.  Stand up for what you believe in and speak out against social injustice.

Positive Thinking 

Choose Happiness

Choose a positive mantra and repeat it several times a day. Positive thinking may feel and sound a little cliched but it does work to put you in a better frame of mind.

Keep a gratitude journal or make a list of things you’re grateful for. Gratitude is really powerful and you do have a lot to be grateful for.

Here is an article about the science of gratitude and if you really want to take your gratitude practice to the next level, then take a look at the Grateful Mind training here as it is a fantastic course all about using gratitude in your life.

Make sure you’re not practicing negative self talk, and if you are, change your inner monologue.

Watch comedies and do other things that will make you laugh more. Laughter really is the best medicine 😁

Practice smiling even when you don’t feel like it.  People smile because they’re happy, but people also become happier when smiling.

You can choose to be happy, but it’s more than just saying “I’m happy”.

Choosing to be happy is about figuring out what will make you happy and then making a decision to take action to achieve your desire. 

Choosing to be happy is choosing to focus on the good in your life, and having the courage to make changes in your life that will lead you to more happiness.  You have options and you can choose to be happy.

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How Can Productivity Be Increased

How Can Productivity Be Increased?

Do More in Less Time – And Have More Time for Yourself

How Can Productivity Be Increased

Getting things done brings such a great feeling of accomplishment, but it can also be overwhelming if the task seems insurmountable. Sometimes, the days just don’t seem long enough to do everything we want to do. When that happens, worry can set in, but it doesn’t have to!

You can do more than you ever thought was possible, and in less time too, giving yourself time to relax and really enjoy life!

It all begins with a solid foundation of time management and scheduling. It’s okay if you’re not a good time manager right now, you can learn to be. It just takes a little bit of practice and you’ll soon be getting more and more done.

When you see how much you’re accomplishing, you’ll work even harder during your busy times, and enjoy those down times more thoroughly.

These scheduling strategies will help you become an expert manager of your time:

Schedule Your Life For Maximum Benefit

How Can Productivity Be Increased

You can avoid procrastination and the big stressed-out rush to meet a deadline by scheduling each day and using just a bit of self-discipline to stick to your schedule.

  • It helps to break things down into smaller tasks. For example, do you have a big presentation coming up at work in two weeks? Don’t try to do it the night before it’s due. Start now. Working for just a half hour each day can help you get that presentation done with plenty of time to spare.
  • It removes wasteful practices from your day. By scheduling your day according to your priorities, you can better utilize the time that you might otherwise have wasted doing unproductive things, like watching television or waiting for the next item on your to-do list to come to you. 

Disallow Doubts From Getting In Your Way

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That little voice in the back of your mind that tells you, “It’s too much work,” or “It’s not going to happen,” doesn’t know what it’s talking about!

  • You can do anything you set your mind to. Keep that thought in mind as you go through your day. The more you think it – or even say it out loud – the more you’ll internalize and believe it.
  • Remember your capabilites. When you remind yourself how much you’re capable of doing, you’ll work harder so you can reap the rewards of being done with work.
  • No matter how you reward yourself, make it a point to do so regularly. Finished that presentation? Take the evening off and watch your favorite movie! Whatever reward works for you is a good one – as long as the work’s done first. 

Recognize When You’re Getting Stressed 

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Sometimes, in an effort to get more done, you’ll find that you aren’t getting the time for yourself that you’d hoped for. When this happens, stop and reassess your schedule.

  • Are you following your agenda? Are you productive during your scheduled working times? Are you meeting your goals? Where can you make changes for better success?
  • Do you concentrate and get your work done during your working hours? If not, you may find that you still have to work when you should be relaxing. This is a vicious circle that leaves you feeling stressed, while getting nowhere.

Eliminate Stressors And Build In Stress Relief

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Think about the following as you go about your workday:

  • By focusing during working hours, you’ll complete each task much sooner. Get your drudgery tasks out of the way as quickly as possible to make more time for more enjoyable tasks.
  • Work time is for work only – so avoid distractions. Ringing phones and other issues can stop you from accomplishing your work. Forward calls to your voice mail and establish “do not disturb” times. You’ll be amazed at how much work you can get done without distractions!
  • If you complete your tasks early, keep working until your schedule says it’s time to stop. Perhaps you can tackle some work for the next day to get ahead. Being a little ahead gives you the flexibility to take care of inevitable emergencies without falling behind in productivity.
  • Recognize when you need a break. People are not machines so your schedule should reflect that. Realistic break times should be part of even the busiest schedule.

By planning your time wisely, you’ll accomplish more and be able to reap the many benefits of true relaxation when you’re done. It’s well worth the effort!

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Dealing With Rejection

Dealing With Rejection

Dealing With Rejection

We learn at an early age that we don’t get everything we want. In other words, we have had to deal with rejection since then.

This may make you think that people accept rejection easily. However in reality the exact opposite is usually true.

People start to develop an invisible shield against rejection. They may show anger or resentment to the people who are serving up the rejection.

But, in many cases, it can show who is resilient and who is likely to continue until they get what they want.

No one likes to hear negative comments about themselves. People take it personally.

However, knowing the reason for rejection can help change your direction. You can correct the aspects that made people reject you in the first place.

This won’t work with everything. For instance, if a person you are attracted to does not return the favor, it may be difficult or impossible to turn this around.

Then again, there are numerous stories of people who persevered even when they were rejected time and again, and won the love of their lives.

Another instance where you may face rejection is during a job interview. Many candidates will pass this off as incompetence on the part of the interviewer, and there are certainly cases where this is true.

But, you should always try to evaluate the reasons why the interviewer did not choose you. You’d be surprised at how few people even ask for the reasons.

Interviewers won’t typically volunteer this information. Many will feel you don’t care if you don’t ask.

In many cases, rejection is not personal. You may not have the necessary skills when seeking a job, or you may not have enough experience, etc.

In other cases, it may be somewhat personal, but it may be in your best interest to get rejected. For instance, if you don’t have an aggressive personality, do you want to pursue a career that requires one? If you are in sales, you need to have this driving personality to succeed.

Use rejection to your benefit. People who accept rejection and don’t give up are usually the ones who eventually get that acceptance.

Sometimes, the very fact that you are persevering is what turns the tables from rejection to acceptance.

Whose to say that next opportunity is not the one that will accept you? You won’t know unless you continue on your quest.

Another thing to make crystal clear in your mind is that only you allow yourself to feel rejected. The problem is that the fear of rejection is a really powerful one so it can be difficult to not feel rejected when it happens.

Also realise that the person is not usually rejecting you personally, but rather your idea/opinion etc. Reframe it like that in your mind and you can free yourself from the paralysis that fear of rejection can cause.

And the person rejecting you now, may well soon be your most fervent supporter.

Dealing with rejection really is that simple. Changing your state of mind works wonders for many areas in your life and rejection is another one.

You have to remember that you are your own worst critic, so when someone disagrees or rejects you, the mind can blow it up out of all proportion and really go to town on your confidence.

Having gratitude for what you do have in your life can really help and it definitely gives you a sense of perspective.

Take time to think about  family, friends, your passions or hobbies, and the things you probably always take for granted e.g. having a roof over your head or food in your belly.

Another way to deal with rejection is to use it as a learning opportunity. If you have had a business idea rejected or been turned down for a job, take some time to analyse what may have caused you to fail at this particular endeavour.

The key here is to be objective and, more importantly, to be really honest to increase the chances of success and reduce the risk of rejection in the future.

By doing this, you can actually rebuild your self-esteem and come out even stronger than before.

Dealing with rejection can be tough but it builds perseverance and character and it doesn’t last forever and you will be a much stronger person when you overcome it.

Life is full of challenges; relish them and grow into the person you want to become and overcome any obstacles that bar your way, including rejection.

And remember…

The stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone Psalm 118:22

You’ve got this… 💪

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How To Find Inner Peace

How To Find Inner Peace And Calm In Times Of Chaos

How To Find Inner Peace

During these turbulent times it is very easy to live in a state of constant worriment! At the time of writing, everyone is pretty much in a global lock-down which also causes a lot of feelings of isolation too.

But there is always hope, and it is even more important to find things to be glad about on a daily basis.

Here is a post about the science of gratitude.

And if you want to go deeper, take a look at the Grateful Mind training here.

Even the Bible recognised this basic human need thousands of years ago:

Be joyful. Grow to maturity. Encourage each other. Live in harmony and peace. (2 Corinthians 13:11)

However, when the news is filled with negative emotion and our surroundings are chaotic, it can seem overwhelming and stressful to be trapped in the house, full of uncertainty.

Yet it is important to realize that peace and tranquility come from within and can be found even in the most challenging times. Making an effort to find this inner peace is one of the most important things you can do during these times.

So, how do you find inner peace in these time?

Well, here are 5 things that you can start using today to combat stress and achieve inner peace. There are many more, but these are as good a place to start as any.

1: Meditation & Yoga 

How To Find Inner Peace

Meditation is great way to calm the mind and focus on your breathing in order to stay present in the moment. Yoga and meditation practices allow you to feel balanced from within and allows you to reflect on outside surroundings rather than consuming them.

Starting with a guided meditation or a yoga class on YouTube is a great way to start practicing without spending money. They will teach you breathing techniques that can help you calm down when you find yourself stressing out and you will notice that you are not as anxious and overwhelmed.

Alternatively, use an app like Headspace to practice meditation and mindfulness.

Meditation allows you to slow down and start appreciating what you have in your life; friends, family, roof over your head etc. and allows you to put things into perspective.

Yoga is a little like meditation in motion and so is also great for physical as well as mental wellbeing.

They may not be for everyone but could be worth a try if you are feeling stressed and isolated.

Develop A Routine  

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It may sound a little boring, but developing a routine, even when stuck at home, is a crucial way to find structure in your life when there are challenges put in front of you.

Waking up at the same time, making time to workout each morning, and reading before bed are a few examples of tasks you can incorporate into your daily routine to keep you feeling calm.

Many of the most productive and successful people, do the same thing every day, including the weekends; no Saturday morning lie-ins for them, so doesn’t that indicate how powerful routine can be?

If you have children and are homeschooling, then having a routine is incredibly important for them too, and will allow you to get them into study mode when required.

Of course, you can also add a little spontaneity too, but the general day should be well-structured so you know what to expect.

Get Outside    

How To Find Inner Peace And Calm

Even though we may not have the ability to go shopping or be in public to get out of the house, we can always take our dogs for a walk or go on a hike in nature to relax and get rid of the feeling of being trapped in the house.

Nature is a great stress reliever that will help you feel gratitude and inner peace throughout these tough times.

Taking a 30-60 minute walk each day is a great way to stay active and get a breath of fresh air to reduce your stress and anxiety levels.

Even getting outside into your garden (if you have one) can boost your mood; you don’t even have to do any gardening (although this will have physical benefits too), just sitting in the sun and listening to the birds singing can instantly make you feel better.

When you are constantly surrounding by technology filled with news that may seem concerning, your stress levels are likely to rise, and you will feel worried. When you step away and let go of this attachment, you will instantly feel calmer.

Beware The News  

Reduce Stress

When chaos is going on around the world and there is stress in the air, the news is the main source that people base their opinions on and process information from.

However, the news is very quick to only announce negative news and alarming stories, which can make the brain feel overwhelmed, anxious, and stressed. The UK tabloid press is particularly good at this.

The problem with consuming too much news, is that you get a very skewed vision of the world that is NOT reality, and this can have a major impact on how you feel.

It is important to stay up to date with current events, but it is also important to not let it consume you.

Many of these things are out of your control and after you take all of the precautionary measures that you can, it is important to step away from the news in order to relax the mind.

Read A Book

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Reading a book is great way to clear your mind and distract yourself from your surroundings when they seem overwhelming or negative.

It is a great way to restore your emotions and reduce stress without staring at a screen or scrolling through social media.

When you read a book, you are improving your brain function, and this has proven to improve mental wellbeing.

Whether it be an educational book, self-help book, or fiction, you will find that you are able to learn a lot and grow both professionally and personally in an enjoyable way.

And why not pick up a Bible if you are feeling really low. The pages of the Bible are filled with hope which we all need in these uncertain times, so perhaps now is the time to delve into the Word. You never know, it could be the beginning of an incredible journey of self-discovery for you.

OK, there are 5 things that you can do to combat stress and achieve some inner peace.

Why not try one (or all of them) and see which works for you, and if you have any that you want to add, let me know.

Stay safe and be strong…

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Self-Discipline

Self-Discipline: 7 Benefits Of Being Disciplined

Self-Discipline

Every day we have choices to make. Wake up early and go to the gym, or get an extra hour of sleep? Pack a healthy lunch to take to work, or buy something when lunchtime rolls around? Throw a little extra money in your savings account, or buy that new gadget or pair of shoes you’ve been eyeballing all month?

Deep down inside, we know which actions will yield the best results. Yet many of us struggle with making the best decisions – and fail to reach our full potential as a result. How do we overcome these challenges? Self-discipline is the answer.

Why Is Self-Discipline Important?

If you want to be successful and reach your goals, self-discipline is the most crucial skill to master.

Frequently, the best choices aren’t the fastest, easiest, or most pleasant. So you must exercise a high level of control over your emotions and behavior.

Improving your ability to do what is best for you regardless of initial desire is the only way to make consistent progress in life.

As such, if self-discipline is your foundational skill, you grow more effective in everything you do.

7 Benefits Of Self-Discipline

When you develop a stronger sense of self-control, you can expect multiple improvements across many areas of your life. Here are ten benefits of self-discipline.

1- Better Physical Health

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First, improving your self-discipline leads to improved physical health.

Exercising control over the quality and quantity of food you consume, establishing a regular fitness routine, and drinking enough water help you maintain a healthy weight, reduce your chances of illness and disease, and increase your chances of longevity and vitality later in life.

This does require a lot of self-discipline for some people, but the benefits will enhance pretty much all areas of your life.

2- Better Academic And/Or Career Success

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Next, self-discipline can help you to make choices that could potentially lead to higher academic and career success.

Sometimes you must choose between studying longer hours and spending time out with friends, or staying late after work to complete a project and heading home to relax.

Self-discipline helps you see the value of delayed gratification, which pays off down the line.

This is especially important in the modern world as the vast majority of people want it now and are not prepared to wait.

3- Better Relationships

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Third, self-discipline improves your relationships because you become a person who follows through on your commitments.

People in your life learn they can trust you to do what you say you will, and they view you more favorably.

Having self-control and doing what you say makes you a more reliable partner, friend and worker, so all types of relationships will benefit from becoming a more disciplined person.

4- Better Control Of Your Finances 

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Next, gaining better control over your finances is another direct benefit of self-discipline.

While it’s more fun to spend money than it is to save, the disciplined individual sees the long-term benefit of putting money away for a rainy day. This is also linked to the benefits of delayed gratification mentioned above.

That’s not to say you pinch pennies and sacrifice quality of life.

Self-discipline isn’t supposed to make you miserable. Instead, it’s about weighing the pros and cons and making decisions that bring you closer to your goals.

Examples of financial self-discipline that don’t require total restriction include regularly putting a certain percentage of each paycheck into your savings account or sticking to a budget that allocates a certain amount of money each month for discretionary spending.

This way, you still get to enjoy the present, though, not at the expense of your future and you will have the opportunity to splurge out occasionally.

5- Fewer Regrets

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Another benefit of growing more self-disciplined is that you’ll have fewer regrets because you make better choices in the first place.

You’ll eliminate such problems as saying the wrong thing at the wrong time because you’re disciplined enough to think before speaking.

This is especially important nowadays, as you have to be so careful what you say in case you upset or offend someone, and social media makes this even more difficult to manage; always think before you speak or post something online!

You’ll avoid jumping to conclusions, give yourself time to gather information before making decisions, and make choices based on facts rather than emotion or opinion.

6- Improved Time Management And Productivity

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With an ever-growing list of things vying for our attention, it seems that time is often in short supply.

One of the best benefits of self-discipline is improved management of your time.

For example, social media can be the ultimate time-killer if you don’t exercise self-control. While it can be useful at times, you can easily fall into the trap of mindlessly scrolling through news feeds when you could be completing other tasks.

By practicing self-discipline, you will become a lot more productive and this is really important for people who work for themselves at home.

Have strict times when you are working, have a space which you use solely for work purposes and stick to it and your productivity will soar.

 7- Staying The Distance

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Finally, self-discipline helps you complete tasks and projects that you start, even when you lose steam or desire.

Motivation is always high at the beginning of a new goal.

Whether it’s a new diet plan, a new business idea, or even new relationships to a certain degree, when things are fresh, there is nothing but excitement and stimulation ahead.

Yet over time, motivation fades, challenges arise, reality sets in, and its tempting to go back to something more familiar or move on to the next shiny object.

Exercising self-control and choosing to finish what you start, within reason, even when you lose motivation and desire means you not only have the finished project under your belt, but you’ve learned lessons and acquired skills you wouldn’t have had you quit.

Final Thoughts

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As the American writer, philosopher and artist, Elbert Hubbard once said, “Self-discipline is the ability to do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.”

Understanding the importance of self-discipline, then taking steps to improve this most critical skill is perhaps the best thing you can do for your personal development and likelihood of lifetime success.

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