Let me ask you something? Is happiness a choice? Can people really choose to feel happy or not?
There are conflicting studies and opinions about general happiness and choosing to be happy. Both arguments have merit, but the truth seems to be somewhere in the middle.
There are certain conditions that do affect one’s ability to choose happiness such as depression and other mood disorders. Some people have difficulty controlling emotions, but it’s a skill that can be learned with practice.
Before jumping right in and learning ways to increase happiness, you need to learn about conditions that may make it difficult to will yourself to be happy. Depression and other mood disorders, ADHD, PTSD, a disability, grief, or poverty make choosing to be happy more challenging.
If you are dealing with any of these issues, there are still practical ways you can increase your happiness, but it may be more difficult. Keep in mind that change takes time, but it is achievable.
Choosing To Be Happy
Choosing to be happy is more than just willing yourself to feel happy. Part of it is thinking positively and thinking happy thoughts, but there are also more practical ways to make yourself happier.
Temperament is partly genetic, but it can still be improved with practice. Below you will learn about some things that you can do in each area to make yourself happy.
Improve Social Relationships
Improve current relationships by reaching out more often, opening lines of communication about past negative experiences, forgiving or seeking forgiveness, or making more time for your friends and family.
Make an effort to make new friends. Take on a new hobby, take a class, join a club, or go to different places in order to meet new people. You can also reach out to others online through social media or dating apps. Don’t be afraid to talk to new people and exchange phone numbers with people you get along with.
Invite friends and family members out for lunch, shopping, or have them over for coffee. Reach out. It can be tempting to wait for others to make the first move so be bold and take the initiative yourself; I’m sure your friends and family will truly appreciate you making the effort to reach out to them.
Improve Temperament And Adaptation
Practice pausing before you react to something. Give yourself a moment to get your emotions in check so that you respond in the way that you really want to rather than having an outburst.
This is a skill that can have a profound effect on both you and those around you; no-one likes to be around someone who gets moody or angry at the drop of a hat.
So, when something triggers you, pause, take a breath and think about how you would want someone to treat you in this situation.
Try to be more open to other people’s ideas and practice letting go of your need to control.
Improve Your Finances
Increase your income by finding a new job, asking for a raise, or taking on a second job. This is not always easy and can be risky, but could definitely be worth it in the long run.
Be open to other career paths. It’s very easy to become comfortable in your career, but is it really what you want to do? Being stuck in a job/career that doesn’t inspire you can be a real drain on your happiness; it’s not just about money, but the sense of fulfillment you get out of what you do.
Look for things you can do to earn a passive income. This is where the internet can come in to play.
There has never been a better time to start an online business and this could just be a side hustle to help you make a mortgage or car payment and if you can set up a business with a recurring monthly payment for customers, all the better.
Pay off debt or avoid taking on debt. if you have any debt, but especially large amounts of debt, this should be an absolute priority for you before anything else. This can be quite painful to begin with but you must take responsibility and deal with it and by doing so, you can feel much happier about yourself.
Set a budget and stick with it so you can have money to do the things that are important to you. Linked to the point above about debt, stop spending money that you don’t have on things you don’t need!
Embrace Or Change Society And Culture
Embrace local culture and society if they’re a positive influence in your life. Learn, explore, and enjoy your environment and the people you share it with.
Don’t be afraid to change your environment or seek change in your current one. Do what you can to be a positive influence. Stand up for what you believe in and speak out against social injustice.
Choose a positive mantra and repeat it several times a day. Positive thinking may feel and sound a little cliched but it does work to put you in a better frame of mind.
Keep a gratitude journal or make a list of things you’re grateful for. Gratitude is really powerful and you do have a lot to be grateful for.
Here is an article about the science of gratitude and if you really want to take your gratitude practice to the next level, then take a look at the Grateful Mind training here as it is a fantastic course all about using gratitude in your life.
Make sure you’re not practicing negative self talk, and if you are, change your inner monologue.
Watch comedies and do other things that will make you laugh more. Laughter really is the best medicine 😁
Practice smiling even when you don’t feel like it. People smile because they’re happy, but people also become happier when smiling.
You can choose to be happy, but it’s more than just saying “I’m happy”.
Choosing to be happy is choosing to focus on the good in your life, and having the courage to make changes in your life that will lead you to more happiness. You have options and you can choose to be happy.
There’s hardly a person alive who would tell you that life is anything but busy – and sometimes tough. You can be pulled in so many directions at once it can be easy to get stretched thin.
No matter how old you are, you’ll encounter trying situations at home, at work, among your friends and family and even with strangers. Everything you go through taps into your inner strength and can drain it little by little.
You can’t do anything about what you experience simply because it’s part of life. But what you can do is to find ways to boost your inner strength so that you have the calm that you need to deal with whatever comes your way.
There are several tools that you can use to help boost your ability from an internal mindset perspective – so that regardless of what you face, you can have a life of calm.
Exercise to Gain Inner Strength
One of the easiest tools that you have at your disposal to use when you need to boost your mental strength is physical exercise. Exercise does so much more than give your muscles strength and help keep your weight under control.
Exercise is necessary to strengthen you emotionally – and one of the reasons for this is because it can calm stress. It’s a well known fact that stress is one of the leading causes for turmoil, loss of peace and mentally draining.
When you experience a loss of inner strength, you’ll feel tired, mentally sluggish and unable to concentrate. What’s going on is that the things you’re dealing with in life (even if they’re not necessarily horrible things) are chipping away at your inner strength.
What you go through in life will hit you internally long before it hits you outwardly. In other words, you’ll feel the stress first. You’ll fee anxious and restless and then you’ll exhibit physical symptoms like insomnia, headaches, stomachaches and more.
What exercise does is cause you to produce a greater supply of endorphins. Not only do these chemicals take care of stress, but they work to boost your supply of inner strength.
You’ll feel calmer and ready to handle whatever it is that you need to take care of. There are some exercises that are better for boosting your inner strength than others.
When you exercise vigorously – such as with aerobic exercise – you’ll find that you have more inner strength. This is because the faster paced exercise works to raise the endorphin levels, but at the same time, it drives down the stress level, gives you more confidence and a more positive attitude.
When you take part in a regular exercise routine, you’ll find that your store of inner strength increases and has a beneficial boost to your mental abilities. The key to using exercise to boost your inner strength is making sure that you find something that you enjoy doing.
If you don’t, you’ll only feel the added stress of doing something that you don’t want to do and you’ll be dealing with the negative emotions associated with that, instead of healing.
Check out this additional audio segment discussing how everybody has their strengths:
How Mantras Boost Your Inner Strength
If you’re not sure what a mantra is, it’s a sound or a word that’s used to help people focus when they’re meditating. There are many reasons that you want to use mantras.
They can help you deflect the thoughts and attitudes that can drain your inner strength. When you practice a mantra, you’ll notice that you have a more positive outlook toward whatever it is that you’re dealing with.
You’ll also discover that learning a mantra can set you free from stress and anxiety. The words that you use in a mantra or the sounds that you’ll use can vary depending on what you choose to do.
There can be particular mantras, too – based on what you’re searching for. Some people will use a basic Om sound as their mantra while others will use specific mantras that translate into requests for healing or blessings or other things that they want to focus on.
Mantras are a way of tapping into your inner strength and finding the balance that you need to restore the draining energy. When you have a mantra, you can use it to help you focus during the times that you feel uncertain or nervous.
You can use it to calm your fears and to help you find your center so that you remain in control. Studies have shown that people who use mantras to help boost their inner strength are often more successful in all areas of their lives than people who don’t.
You’ll experience clarity and a mental focus that others won’t have. Not only will you be able to boost your inner strength on a regular basis, but during a time of crisis when you really need your mental alertness.
Mantras help you be aware of what’s going on around you as well as within you. They can guide you to help lift you above the situation and to keep your perspective.
This will help you to see situations as solvable and as a moment in time rather than as something that can’t be overcome. When you practice with a mantra, it will teach you to be more confident in your abilities and can raise your self-esteem.
You’ll be able to find the positives even in the negative situations you might have to deal with. By using a mantra, you’ll be able to have a way to relax at any moment throughout the day.
This can help bring your emotions back into focus. People who practice mantras are also often more compassionate and slower to get angry. This level headedness is a wonderful trait to have in terms of keeping you emotionally sound.
Check out this additional audio segment discussing how strengths are developed:
Affirmations Are a Tool for Boosting Inner Strength
Some people think that affirmations and mantras are one in the same, but they’re not. Rather than being a single word or a sound, an affirmation is made up of complete sentences.
These sentences are designed to delve deep into the subconscious mind to refill the well of inner strength. When people practice these sentences, they’re keys that can help the user see what it is that restores them.
When the affirmations are practiced, the subconscious mind recognizes them. Behavior changes takes place based on how the person then decides to live his or her life.
Affirmations influence the people who use them by causing them to react to pleasant or unpleasant situations with a happier outlook. When affirmations are practiced, it allows the person to replenish the inner strength rather than taking from it.
When you connect with the power of the subconscious mind, you can change your life. What the affirmations do first is affect the way that you think. The way that you think about things will be followed by the way that you act.
So if you’re someone who has a situation in your life that has always robbed you of confidence or affected your self-esteem, practicing affirmations can help you change the way that you react because it changes your thought processes.
You’ll be able to break free of the type of thinking that keeps you stuck. Affirmations give you a positive outlook on life, which in turn leads you to feeling happier and more vibrant.
The positivity adds to your inner strength rather than taking from it. You don’t have to carve out huge blocks of time to be able to practice affirmations. You can say them throughout the day to unleash their positive power.
When you first begin to use affirmations, you might encounter some self-resistance because it can be a struggle to change the way that you’ve always thought about things.
But you can press on and use affirmations to help you until it becomes second nature for you. You can use different affirmations depending on what type of inner strength you need to boost.
For example, if you’re struggling in the area of self-doubt and you feel like a failure in what you try to do, then you need to use an affirmation that supports your success.
For that type of affirmation, you would say something like “I can achieve success” or “Success is drawn to me.” Don’t put it in the future by using words like, “I will succeed.”
If you were struggling with feeling sad or not happy with your life, you would use affirmations that affirmed happiness. You would repeat a sentence such as “Happiness dwells within me” or “Happiness is drawn to me.”
You wouldn’t say, “I will become happier.” You want to keep it in the present. By using affirmations to change your subconscious, you can boost the level of your inner strength.
Check out this additional audio segment discussing how to tease out and nurture your strengths:
Using Yoga to Boost Inner Strength
Finding a way to boost your inner strength is a lot easier than you might think. One of the ways that you can do this is by practicing yoga. Yoga is a spiritual practice that uses breathing and postures in meditation and relaxation.
It teaches people how to gain inner strength and get rid of stress. You can use it to help you retain a sense of peace. By working to build up a person’s body and mind strength, it works to boost the inner strength.
You might be living your life and feel that you’re doing what you supposed to do but there are times throughout the day when you simply feel so mentally and emotionally drained, it’s hard to muddle through.
Or you might reach the end of the day and feel as if you gave your all to the point where you have nothing left to give – including to yourself. This will quickly drain your inner strength and if you don’t boost it back, you’ll end up experiencing things like fatigue and emotional and physical upsets.
Yoga is a tool that you can use to influence yourself toward being a positive person and positive people are more successful. The reason is because people who have inner strength have a confidence that others don’t often have.
Practicing yoga makes you feel a greater sense of self because when you take part in the poses, your body releases endorphins that affect your mood and give you a boost.
When you practice yoga on a consistent basis, you’ll notice that you feel better physically and emotionally. The benefit of yoga is that it can be practiced anywhere – including at the office.
When you feel that mental and emotional drain and you know that your inner strength needs a boost, you can use yoga to give you back your energy and clarity.
You’ll feel better about yourself and your abilities. There are different types of yoga that you can use. But some of them are better suited for boosting inner strength than others.
There is Ashtanga, Bikram, Iyenga, Vinyasa and Hatha. Of these, Hatha is more often used for the purpose of boosting inner strength because it has the ability to restore balance to the body.
Check out this additional audio segment discussing the value of playing to your strengths:
Finding the Right Self-Help Books to Boost Inner Strength
A great tool that you can use to boost your inner strength is a self-help book. You can find a wide selection of them at retail and online stores that are written specifically to guide you toward greater inner strength.
One of the ways that these books can help you is that they teach you the link that self-esteem has with your actions. When you have lower self-esteem, you also have a lack of confidence in your ability as a person.
This lack of confidence bleeds over into how you perform at work and how well you do in your relationships with other people. When you struggle with your inner strength, it can make you feel less happy than you deserve to feel.
By using a self-help book, you can have the power that you need to reach the best level of inner strength. These books will help you be able to pinpoint how you’re sabotaging yourself in different areas of your life and draining your well of inner strength.
You’ll learn about actions that you’re doing that create a well of negativity and keep you trapped in an ongoing cycle of strength drain. When you gain the inner strength balance that you need, you’ll be able to overcome a lack of self-esteem.
You’ll discover that you feel more confident in your relationships and with your job. You’ll also learn to recognize situations and people in your life that act as drains on your attitude – and how you can deal with these individuals.
A self help book can show you how to restore your inner strength through the use of different techniques that teach calmness and restoration. You’ll be able to view things with a clarity that you didn’t have before.
You’ll learn exactly what inner strength is and the issues that can occur in life that can affect your strength. You’ll learn the negative and positive influences that are around and within you that you need either avoid or cultivate.
By using self help books that show you how to boost your inner strength, you’ll gain a stronger sense of self that will lead you to develop a life of accomplishments and happiness that are well within your reach.
Check out this additional audio segment discussing the top ways to identify your strengths:
OK, are you ready to continue with some more tips to discovering your passion or true purpose? Yes, ok then, read on 🙂
Get Outdoors And Let Nature Inspire You!
If you’re just sat down on a sofa or chair right now, surrounded by 4 walls and a ceiling, you’re not alone! In fact, it’s the number one reason that more and more of us have no passion. Our progressively homebound, car-bound, office-bound, computer-bound life-style takes up a lot of our lives and saps our energy and enthusiasm. We just roll along, getting by. Where is the fire and passion in that?!!!!!
Do Something Different
This isn’t what our bodies or brains were built for. Throughout our history, we spent much more time outdoors and living an active lifestyle. Our sedentary life-style is a modern arrival but we’ve surely accepted it and many have grown to like it!
Convenience might be good, but lack of daily action isn’t good for us at all. We were designed to be active and sedentary living has been associated to pretty much every major health disorder of our times: as well as that, it can seriously cause a lack of passion.
So get off your butt and get outside! Switch off the television, push the ottoman away from the couch, lace your shoes and get outdoors for at least half-hour a day, plus a couple of hours every weekend. This surely isn’t too much to ask, is it? You’ll be doing you body AND mind a world of good.
Sure, we understand, you don’t have to go outside to get a great workout. But simply getting outdoors, appreciating nature and looking at flowers is a great way to alleviate depression and also sparks creativity.
Here are a few ideas to inspire you to get outside:
Put on outdoor clothes as soon as you get home from work. For many of us, the clothes you wear for work are “indoor” clothes. Make it a ritual: arrive home, take off the suit/shirt/trouser etc. and jump into a tee shirt and jeans/shorts, and begin the 2nd part of your day anew.
Leave any crucial outdoor gear by the door. Outdoor shoes, sunglasses, a brimmed hat, sun block, and bug repellent all are crucial summer outdoor gear. Have them all prepared and ready for an impromtu excursion, and leave them by your front or back door.
Why not try matching meal times with outdoor time. If your dinner took twenty minutes then you know that you need to walk for at least twenty minutes outside after your dinner has gone down.
Adopt more nature walks. If you’ve adopted walking as part of your regimen, fantastic! So, what do you love doing outside? Whether it’s golfing, fishing, doing watercolors, shooting basketballs, playing badminton, playing with your dog, have your gear ready and waiting near your front or back door, ready for instant use.
There’s a huge myth in our civilization: that passion may solely be spontaneous. You either like your job or you do not. You either like working out or detest it. You’re interested in reading books or you find them awful. So there is this belief that passion can’t be coerced or produced. I don’t agree with this at all. Passion may be produced. Even for things you may not presently like.
By fine-tuning the activities and pastimes you engage in, you may discover a passion for anything. All it takes is a little patience and an open mind.
The advantage of this is that you wind up loving the things you have to do anyways. Working out, learning, reading, working and nearly any pursuit can be made into a passion you enjoy and look forward to.
And if you understand how to do it, existing passions may be turned from mildly interesting to energising. The skill of discovering your passion is like turning up the dial for the quantity of color you have in life. Here are a few ways to find your passion:
If an action appears to be too difficult for you to become enthusiastic about it, don’t worry. The key here is to not rush it and try to force it; allow things to happen naturally. Focus less on the outcomes and more about experimenting until you are able to develop the skill.
If you believe in something, are passionate about it and can clearly visualise the end result, you can feel a sense of certainty that you will achieve it. It’s no longer a question of if, but when. And this is powerful.
With this level of certainty you can quit stressing over what might or might not happen in the future because you know that you’re going to accomplish it and that’s final. Accomplishment merely becomes a matter of doing X to accomplish Y.
You can now live in the present because you know that your future is in your hands and you WILL achieve whatever you set out to do!
Set a direction for your life and love the ride!
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Discovering your passion in life is imperative if you really want to have a happy, fun and fulfilling life so don’t you think that it is worth the effort to discover what you are truly passionate about; how amazing would it feel if you could make that the focus of your job/career or business? Are you interested? Well let’s get started!
Look after yourself.
It’s pretty simple but when you start paying attention to your body, and its well-being, things will come to you. Just by getting up off the sofa and doing a bit of exercise every day, it may get your blood pumping and your brain working (and this doesn’t have to be strenuous, just try some light running or walking). Pay attention to your ideas as you “work out”, and a few invigorating things might just flow into your head.
Look for guidance.
However well you think you know yourself it is always a clever idea to get an outside perspective; your friends and family may be able to help you recognize what you are great at, and what a few of your hopes and aspirations are. And you may be surprised by what they associate with you, but don’t dismiss it out of hand. By connecting to these individuals, and asking for guidance, you may discover answers that can help you to discover your true purpose.
Write down ideas.
Whenever you think of an idea, write it down so you don’t forget. I get some of my best ideas when I am about to drift off to sleep so I keep a pen and notepad next to my bed so I can jot it down and look over it in the morning! By writing your ideas down, you may be able to identify any recurring themes. Delving into your subconscious to try to discover a secret wish or goal may be difficult, but if you really listen to what your subconscious is telling you, you may be able to discover a passion in life you never even realised you had!
So, what are you waiting for? Once you have a few thoughts that interest you, why not try to get moving in a new career or interest. By taking classes, internships or a new job, you may discover what you are really passionate about and this will make you feel so good if you can make this a big part of your life.
Using Your Surroundings
There are many factors which will determine whether you will be able to get in touch with your true inner passion, but don’t you think that it is worth the effort to do so?
However, working out how to dig out those long-entombed passions and interests can be an entirely different story. If you like to learn visually, one fantastic way to discover your passions is to produce a vision board. These are pretty powerful and you may discover yourself taking steps that will open up your mind and let you relax and allow your innermost desires to suddenly appear.
And don’t be afraid to venture outdoors too! Take the time to sit in a couple of different spaces, surrounded by different items to discover out what gets your creative juices flowing. Relaxation is great, but the urge to accomplish something is even greater.
Whether your environment makes you want to sing or take a photo, draw or compose or just sit and dream; the idea is to discover the paragon place for you to connect with your inner self.
When you start to think about creative surroundings you might feel that in order to be creative you need to be surrounded by works of art etc. but in all honesty creative environments aren’t just about the decor, it’s more about how it makes you feel an inspire you.
So if your creative place is sitting under a tree in the woods listening to birdsong, or in a window seat with sunshine streaming in, that’s fantastic. It’s all about YOU and how your place makes YOU feel.
Even if you are not going to make a vision board, it’s crucial to spend some time in a creative place so that you may stay in touch with your inner passions and creative thinking. This encourages a more balanced mental attitude and less tension in your life.
Expand Your Mind
Have you ever wanted to have a carefree, passionate and fun-loving personality, however felt it just wasn’t you or how you were meant to be? This is garbage! There’s a way to have a creative, cheerful outlook with plenty of happiness and meaning in life and to also be a responsible individual.
Expand Your Brain
To begin with, you have to believe and be open to trying fresh things. Is it really that simple? Yes, but the problem is that it doesn’t happen overnight and in todays modern fast-paced society we want everything instantly. But isn’t it worth exercising a little patience for something that can enrich your life forever?
And doesn’t that sound like the kind of life that you really want to lead?
Now, there are a number of ways to expand your beliefs and actions in daily life. The biggest issue is that life gets in the way and occasionally we discover ourselves in a rut that we simply can’t seem to get out of.
And as human beings we are generally lazy and follow the path of least resistance and we have a disposition to put on our autopilot and just go through the, without consciously thinking about what’s going on around us.
OK, I believe you get the picture. “Must I keep driving this new route?” you may ask. Of course you don’t, unless you actually prefer. The point is that you tried something different today. You changed your brain in a little way, and that makes it grow.
Another way of making the commute more enriching is to listen to inspirational and informative audio; this could be podcasts or cassette tapes/CD’s of your favourite speakers. All this is food for your brain!
The great this about all this is that once you decide to try fresh new things, who knows what lively fresh individuals and experiences you might meet along the way? And think about how these new experiences could impact on your life and push you forward in a new, exciting direction!
The example above speaks more about the mental attitude you picked out, rather than the modest decision to take a fresh road home. You see, once you begin making minor changes, it gets to become a habit, which leads to greater shifts.
Those greater shifts may lead to all sorts of fantastic things for you. You’ll see more serendipity, creative thinking and passion in your life; you’ll formulate a more outgoing personality and attempting fresh fun things may open the door to meet fresh lively individuals.
In time, this may all build self-assurance and self-regard, and bring much more happiness and significance into your life. You’ll be believing less “I can’t do that”, and more “Well, I can and will do that!”
Your mindset is a critical key to getting all you want out of life so nurture it and reap the rewards. Ignore this at your peril!
Do you realise that when you get up in the morning you have a choice. So what choices am I on about; well, you can either look forward to the day ahead, or you can dread it, simple as that. And what do you think determines the choice you focus on? Well, that really depends on how much you like what you’re going to be doing for the next 16 hours before it’s time to hit the hay again.
Now, it’s pretty obvious that we’re not going to love everything we end up doing during the day (I don’t know many of us that look forward to cleaning the bathroom), but you should be able to find some things to look forward to. And if you can work more of those things you enjoy into your life, the more fulfilled and happier you’ll be.
Love What You Do For A Living
I have a serious question for you, and be honest here. Is your job something you look forward to, or something you dread? If you’re not having fun and really enjoying what you’re doing (and I don’t mean all of the time… we all have bad days), it may be time to give serious consideration to a career change. Believe me, NO amount of money is worth being miserable and it can be really difficult to enjoy life and love who you are when you hate much of what you’re doing on a daily basis; it is a recipe for unhappiness. Why not find something you can get behind and be passionate about instead? You’ll feel so much better! Make a living while making a difference and fulfilling your purpose in life.
Do What You Love Around The House
Our home will always be a special place in our heart. It’s a safe place, where we can raise our kids and rest our head at night. And you should enjoy spending time at home. It should be a property that you are proud to own and that you enjoy taking care of. What I’m trying to say is, our home should be our sanctuary, our safe haven, our happy place.
If you’re at home while reading this, take a look around you right now. What do you love about your home? What makes you proud of your home And conversely what don’t you particularly love and is there anything that you can do about that? Start small, but start to improve your surroundings. Moving into your dream house overlooking the ocean may not be an option right now, but you can paint your living room walls and hang up a pretty beach painting. Turn your home into a place you love.
Do What You Love – a.k.a. Hobbies
Now I realise that you may not presently be in a situation where you can do much about your job or your house, but there are other ways to incorporate what you love into your day. Find something you enjoy doing. It could be gardening, curling up with a good book, playing golf, photography, knitting… it doesn’t matter what it is as long as it is something you love and enjoy. In other words, find a hobby and make sure you make some time for it in your busy day and week.
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