Have you ever noticed that charismatic people are usually quite popular and it’s probably safe to assume that many of us envy those who have charisma. But could it also be a double-edged sword? Charisma is a learned skill so anyone has the capability to learn how to gain, and use it. But when you get it, will you be ready for it?

One thing you will notice about people who are charismatic is that they tenmd to be the constant focus of attention. That is the nature of charisma as people are naturally drawn to it. And many will enjoy the attention. But think about it for a second; if people are always coming to you at work, for instance, how are you ever going to have the time to get your own work done? Some may think that this is a good problem to have, but it can become rather frustrating and a darn nuisance if it happens too much.

People will also tend to speak to others about charismatic people. They will tell their friends and colleagues what great people they are and that they are proud to call them a friend. Of course, this could lead to those friends and colleagues seeking him or her out and this unfortunate charimatic person will have even more attention to deal with. These new people will also end up telling their friend and colleagues as well and exacerbate this even more!

If you are charismatic and people are drawn to you then they are also going to come to you for advice. They will rely on any advice you give. That may be okay if you are an expert in the subject that they asked about. But what if you are not and you give them the wrong advice and they take it.This could be potentially embarrasing for them and they could be getting into a situation that may not be good for them. While people are responsible for their own actions, it doesn’t help when someone with charisma gives advice as that advice is likely going to be acted upon. The charismatic person sometimes revels in the title of advice giver, even if the advice is not useful. This may not be intentionaly malicious, more misguided.

Your home life could also be affected by your increased charisma. You may find that more people are calling on you to join them in various activities, like joining the softball league or coaching kids soccer games. These may all be activities you wanted to get involved with but they will be ever increasing opportunities. Those days of relaxing on Sundays are suddenly a thing of the past!

For the most part, being charismatic is a good quality to have and one that most people would love to incorporate into their life. It may even put you into a leadership role along with a promotion. But be ready for the changes that happen and try to keep grounded in what it’s going to mean for others as well as the impact it may have on you and your family.