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You Really Can Become Anything You Want To Be

Do you remember when you were younger, and everyone was telling you that you could be anything you wanted to be? It’s strange because many of those people will have turned out to be hypocrites. Tell them now that you want to be the next Bill Gates and they’ll probably tell you to stop daydreaming and get a job. Nice.

But the fact is that they were right the first time. It actually is possible to be anything you want to be and the amazing thing is that it’s easier today than it ever has been. Let’s take a look at why that is…

How To Be Whatever You Want To Be… Tomorrow

Actually, being whatever you want to be is incredibly easy. Want to be a writer? Then start writing tonight. Congratulations! You are now a writer! Want to be a swimmer? Then start swimming. Congratulations! You are now a swimmer!

Sure, in these cases you aren’t being paid to do what you want to do and you’re not ‘professional’ but that doesn’t change the fact that you are a writer or swimmer. And as soon as you start trying to be paid for it, you become professional. Does the fact that you have no clients yet mean you’re not a freelancer?

Once you realize this, things get better right away. You don’t have to make your day job ‘who you are’ because you can make your hobby ‘who you are’ – or your side project. It doesn’t matter if you hate your work and it’s not satisfying as long as you’re doing something else that gives you hope and purpose.

Making It Big

And if you try hard enough, then eventually you will be able to go professional with what you do. The reason is that if you write enough, you will eventually learn how to get good at it and how to find clients. Ever heard of the ‘10,000 hour rule’?

It means that you can put 10,000 hours into anything and become a master of it that way. Do the thing you love every night then and you will eventually be great at it.

What if the opportunity to make it big never comes? Well in that case you can make the opportunity.

Save enough money in your day job for instance and you can put that money into self-publishing your book or into producing your own music video.

And who cares even if it’s successful? Now you’re a writer or a singer and lots of people have seen your work. So honestly… you really can be anything you want to be!

Here’s How You Do Something Amazing And Change The World

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Ever wanted to change the world? Come on, be honest…

Most of us on some level would probably like it if we could make a big impact on the world or do something amazing at least but we’re too afraid too because we don’t think that it’s something we can possible accomplish.

You see most of us know our place. We realize that we work a 9-5 job, put food on the table and then go to bed. We leave the ground breaking stuff to the others…

But what you maybe don’t realize is that ‘the others’ are people who were once in the exact same position as you but who had the nerve to try anyway. Everyday people like you and me change the world all the time and believe it or not, there’s actually a formula for doing it!

Define Your Goal And Shout About It

The first step to changing the world is to define what it is you want to achieve and then own it. Most of us will never change the world because we don’t think that we’re capable of it and so we keep it to ourselves.

Our biggest ambitions are often things that we’re embarrassed of, terrible though that is.

But as soon as you start acknowledging what you really want to achieve and you start going for it, then you will be able to define your plan of action and you will get attention from people who will be moved by your passion, ambition and dedication.

Big ideas will often get attention and a following much quicker than small ones. And that’s how you move on to the next stage.

Find Powerful Allies

This is the part that most people don’t consider. Sure, you might lack the funding or the authority to change the world, but if you have a good enough idea… then you can find someone who does have the power to.

And if you convince then, then they can trumpet your idea or give you the platform and funding you need to accomplish the things you need to accomplish.

This is what Palmer Luckey did when he decided he wanted to make virtual reality a reality (ironic though that sounds). First he admitted to himself that that’s what he wanted.

Then he shouted about it on Kickstarter and got a huge backing and then he took the idea to powerful people like John Carmack and Mark Zuckerberg. They gave him the funding, the resources and the knowhow and now the Oculus Rift is poised to genuinely change the world.

He started in his basement and he got to where he is in just a few years… and you can do the exact same thing!

The 80/20 Principle – Knowing Where To Put Your Effort In

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Going big is often the best way to ensure your success – create enough output, take enough chances and eventually you’ll be sure to have a hit or ten under your belt which for many of us will be more than enough.

But while working hard enough is often the secret to almost guaranteed success, you mustn’t also Underestimate The Power Of Working Smart.

What It Means To Work Smart

What it means to work smart is basically to be strategic in the way that you approach any problem or any ambition. In turn, this means approaching your aims in such a way that you will be able to cut corners and accomplish the most with the minimal effort.

In theory, this will then allow you to combine your smart strategy with huge output in order to accomplish the best possible results.

Putting in 10,000 hours is a great way to become an expert – but the quality of those 10,000 hours also makes a big difference.

The 80/20 Rule

The 80/20 rule, also sometimes know as the ‘Pareto Principle’, basically states that whatever it is that you do, 20% of your effort will yield 80% of your success.

So if you sell 100 products, chances are that 20 of them (or even fewer) will make up the vast majority of your cash.

The moral of this story is that if you ‘throw enough paint at the wall’ some is bound to stick.

We often won’t know what is going to be the most important aspect of our strategy but once we do, it’s then a good idea to focus on that smaller percentage that yields results.

In the case of a business providing a service, it will often be that the company makes the vast majority of its money from just a few clients while the others serve as nothing but a distraction really. In other cases, it might be that a small number of clients cause the vast majority of the problems.

In such a case, it would be wise for that business to lose the 20% causing the 80% of the problem and even to get rid of some of those clients that aren’t bringing much to the table.

Instead, focus purely on the ones that are generating the most income and actually life will be easier and you’ll earn much more. Then you can put in huge effort and see huge rewards for both them and you!

The Art Of Failing Fast

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If you want to achieve a lot in life, sometimes the secret is to stop trying so hard and to put out lower quality work.

Wait… what?

That’s not what they told you at school right? And it probably goes against pretty much everything you’ve been brought up to believe as well. But in fact it is very often the case when it comes to really being successful so let’s take a look at why.

What It Means To Fail Fast

What I’m talking about here is ‘failing fast’. In business, this means creating your ‘minimal viable product’ or your ‘MVP’ and releasing that as quickly as possible. So a company will create a product that is really sub-par in many ways and that certainly could be better and then they’ll release ten more.

In the same time another company that doesn’t take the fail fast approach might only release a single product that’s much better quality.

Why is it better in some cases to release things that you don’t really think are the best they could possibly be?

Well it comes down to the fact that these ‘minimal viable products’ require smaller investment and allow you to get something out the door faster. That means that you can beat the competition to market and it means that you don’t lose out on such a big investment as you otherwise might do. More importantly, it means you can quickly release something else again next week as well.

As a result you’ll be able to rapidly test the market and get an idea for whether or not people want to buy your product. If you get lots of interest and lots of sales then you know that it’s worth your while to invest even more time and even more effort into that particular version because there’s a market there to buy it. If you don’t get any interest? You move on, having taking the minimal financial hit.

Meanwhile, the company that invested all their time, effort and money on creating one fantastic product might risk that product failing and costing them huge amounts, possibly ending the business.

Applying It To Life

The ‘fail fast’ technique can also be applied to other areas of your life. Basically this means releasing a ‘beta’ version into the public and you can do this in all kinds of situations.

For instance, if you’re in a bar and you want to get someone to go home with someone attractive, then instead of spending all night staring at one person, instead try smiling at as many people as possible.

Some people will look the other way, but when someone finally smiles back, then you can go over and invest the time.

See what other areas you can apply the fail fast approach to!

How Playing The Numbers Game Can Help You To Succeed At Everything

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Want to increase your likelihood at success? Then simply try more often.

In gambling this isn’t a good idea because it means you’ll lose a hundred times before you win and go broke. But in life things are different. In life, you can ‘fail’ thousands of times and bounce back stronger than you were before… But you only need one win. If you ‘play the numbers’ then, you can effectively rig yourself to succeed no matter what you do.

In Dating

I have a friend who applies this logic to dating. He’s a funny guy and every time we go on a night out, he will set off to approach lots of women.

In a typical scenario he might chat up 10-20 girls on a night out and 9/10 times he will get rejected. We all laugh at him and tease him for it but here’s the thing… really the joke’s on us.

If you’ve done the math, then 9/10 fails means that on a typical number he’ll succeed with one or two women… which means he’s basically getting more action than all of us put together. Now that’s success!

In Making Money

You can also apply this to making money, as I once did.

When Kindle first came out, there was something of a ‘gold rush’ as people clamored to upload e-books to Amazon. I started out by uploading a book or two and it got a couple of downloads a month – I was happy, if underwhelmed.

But then I realized that every book I uploaded would get me two more sales a month. And once the book was there, I wouldn’t have to do anything to promote sales. Seeing as I’m capable of writing 10,000 words or more a day, that meant I could write pretty much an e-book a day.

Can you guess what I did? For one year I uploaded an e-book or two every single day and by the end I had hundreds of e-books in the store. All of them got at least two downloads a day and two of them went massive… the result? A huge ‘passive income’ that would pay my wages travelling for the whole subsequent year.

The moral of the story? You make your own luck. Play the game enough and you will win and make it big!

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3 Powerful And Surprising Goal Setting Tips You Missed

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I once heard a famous motivational and sales speaker tell the story of someone who set some goals.

It seems he wrote down all of his great big goals like getting a super high paying job, traveling the world, starting a non-profit foundation and so forth, folded up the paper and put it in a drawer.

Then he forgot all about those goals and went about his life.

Fast forward three years, and he’s moving into his new house. Packing up that drawer, he finds the goal list he wrote out, and realizes he has accomplished every single goal on that list, including buying a mansion.

Yeah. Right.

And then a leprechaun jumped out of the drawer and handed him a magic genie lamp, and he made three wishes and married the fairy princess.

As you might have guessed, I’m not buying that story. Are you?

You can’t simply write down your goals, forget about them and then have them magically happen. If only you could.

But there are things you can do to help you achieve your goals and New Year’s resolutions – things I’ll bet NO ONE has told you about.

Things that can give you the life you want, if you embrace them.

Things that… well… might just set your goal getting abilities on fire.

Let’s get started:

Goal Setting Tip 1: What Kind Of PAIN Do You Want To Have?

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Focusing on what you want usually isn’t going to work unless you also consider what kind of pain you want to have.

Everyone wants a rock hard body and a few million dollars in the bank. But are you willing to go through the pain it costs to get those things?

THAT is the question.

An art fan tells a great artist that she should would do ANYTHING to paint like he does.

To which the artist replies, “If that were so, then you would already be painting like me. I’ve painted every single day since I was seven years old. I painted when my friends were outside playing. In high school I painted when my friends were going to dances and playing sports. In college I painted instead of dating. I’ve taken art courses and studied art until I know more than most of my professors. I’ve traveled the world to sit at the feet of great painters and observe their process. I’ve given everything I have to be a great painter. And if you really wanted to be like me, you would have done the same.”


That artist paid a very big price for achieving his goal.

Goal setting and goal getting isn’t just about choosing the rewards you want like you’re a kid in the candy shop with mom’s credit card. It’s also about deciding on what cost you are willing to pay to achieve those rewards.

What pain are you willing to go through to achieve your goals?

What you willing to do?

What will you sacrifice?

What regiment, training, practice schedule and so forth will you commit to doing every day until you succeed?

When you decide this in advance, you multiply the odds of achieving your goal by ten-fold.

Goal Getting Tip 2: The Secret Ingredient

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“I want to be a medical doctor.”

Okay, that’s your goal. But what do you do to achieve that goal? Writing it down and stuffing it into a drawer won’t make it happen.

You need systems in place to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

For the would-be doctor, she needs systems to apply to and get accepted at medical schools. She needs a system in place to pay for the school. She needs another system to make sure she studies, and so forth.

For a pianist, his goal is to give concerts to millions of people. But his system is to practice each day of his life.

For a coach, her goal is to win the championship. But the system is the practices she puts her players through each day.

For an entrepreneur, the goal is to build a profitable business and sell it. But the system is the sales and marketing process that brings in the customers, as well as the system for delivering the products or services.

Without systems in place to reach your goals, you won’t get there.

That’s because it’s the system and not the goal itself that achieves the results you want.

First, you choose your goal based on both what you want and what pain you are willing to endure to get that goal.

Then you choose the system you’re going to use to achieve that goal.

Goal Getting Tip 3: Goal Assassination

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You’ve made your goals and now you’ve got a list – the kind of list a kid might send to Santa Clause – so what’s the delay? Why aren’t you achieving your goals?

Maybe you’re got too many of them. The more goals you have, the less likely it is that you will achieve any one of them. That’s because they’re all competing for your time and attention, and you simply don’t have enough of either one to simultaneously achieve every goal on your list.

Imagine you’re growing roses. On one rose bush, there are a hundred rosebuds. But on the other rose bush, you snip off every single bud except for one.

Which rose flower will be the biggest? The one by itself, of course. And that’s because it gets all of the energy and food the plant can provide, instead of having to share it with a hundred other flowers.

Your goals are all competing for your time and energy.

That’s why you’ve got to ruthlessly eliminate your lesser goals, at least until you achieve your biggest goal.

The more time and energy you can put into your #1 goal, the faster you can achieve it. And once you do, then you can focus on the next goal, and then the next, and so forth.

The exception: If a secondary goal directly supports your primary goal, then it can be best to pursue both at once.

For example, you want to build a business. It’s going to be a lot easier to make good decisions and work hard if you get enough exercise and eat right.

Exercise and proper eating support your goal of building a business, so don’t wait until the business is built to get in shape. Start exercising and eating healthy right away, so you have what it takes to build that business and live the good life.

I know the motivational gurus want you to think getting your goals is easy, but usually it’s not. It takes work. Sacrifice. Pain. Focus. Perseverance. And tenacity. But knowing this from the start means you’re forewarned and forearmed to get the job done.

And once you achieve your first big goal, you just might find you’re addicted to the process.

Guaranteed, the second goal will be easier than the first, because now you’ll know what it takes.

The New Year is upon us. 12 months from now, you can either look back and wish you had achieved that big goal, or look back and be thrilled that you did.

The choice is yours.


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Time Management: 3 Steps To Multiply Time And Profits

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When you hear the word entrepreneur, your first thought might be Richard Branson, Jeff Bezos, Daymond John or Susie Ma. These are high level entrepreneurs that saw opportunities to solve problems and make a lot of money. They built capital, created products and services, that are unique and became very wealthy.

The ideas in this article are some of the ways high level entrepreneurs succeed. Have no doubts that if you are a new entrepreneur or even a solo business owner-putting these seven time management ideas to work…will advance your business to new levels.

Some of the ideas can be incorporated immediately, while the others, such as the ones with software or apps…will require a bit of research and decision making.

Set Your Business Goals

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Are you 100% clear on what your business goals are? You need to get your new business off to a flying start. Or if you have been in business for awhile and there have been issues, it may be due to not seeing things, crystal clear.

Consider having a self-improvement goal as part of your business goals. Self-improvement will strengthen the other areas of your goal setting. Get a mentor or a coach who has the experience in the areas of self-confidence, self-esteem or creating a new mindset around achieving success in business.

You need to set income goals and keep track of everything. The most basic thing is having monthly, quarterly and annual income goals. If you want to be a high functioning, successful entrepreneur, think about tracking everything daily in a special spreadsheet. You could have a daily income goal and keep track of every dollar that comes in and what you spend on your business daily.

Stop your internal negative dialogue. When you have lofty business goals, sometimes you end up talking yourself out of something that if you stuck to it…would be ultimately successful.

Hannibal saw the mountains and basically said, “we will either find a way or make one. Leading thousands of soldiers and elephants over a mountain range, Hannibal had an extremely positive mental image of himself.

Have a great idea for something that will make you $10K a month? If you start to balk, just take the first few actions and as you see success, put your foot on the accelerator and get up to speed.

Internal negative dialogue or “stinky thinking” as it is also called, destroys dreams and ambition. You can overcome that and build an awesome business.

Define The Tasks That Will Help You Achieve Those Goals

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When you have a business idea and want to either start it or add it to your existing business…you need to define your tasks. This is where you put on your strategic thinking hat and write out the who, what, where of what the tasks are. Questions to ask are things like:

  • Who will help you? Do you have a team already that has the skills to get the new business up and running, then turn it into profit?
  • What exactly is the business? Make a business plan. Add mind maps.
  • Where will you conduct this business. Decide if you have enough space. Do you need to upgrade?
  • How long will it take to get this business off the ground?

When you are a solo venture, the tasks will be slightly different. Let’s look at the example of someone who runs a social media business for a medium size start-up.

Some of the tasks for this person to reach their goals might be:

  • Getting traffic to their website, to gain new clients.
  • Getting new testimonials constantly to show they are on top of their game.
  • Studying and trying new methods to gain followers for their customers.
  • Learning the best of copywriting to create awesome Twitter/Tumbler/Facebook posts for their customers.
  • Creating lists for different tasks and tracking everything from sales, expenses, cold calls for new business and new supplies for the home office.

Writing out the tasks and adding time to complete dates will help save time and achieve your goals.


Time Management Strategies

There should be an action plan with clear time frames, deadlines and who should complete those tasks. Use project management tools as Asana, Basecamp or Trello.

Everyone needs a plan. And the entrepreneur always creates the best plan, while putting together an amazing team. It is a case of knowing the strengths and weaknesses of the team members.

With that knowledge, you can decide the best person for a task, set the deadlines, the goals and of course the rewards. With technology today, project management tools help the entrepreneur keep everything on track. Let’s look at three outstanding tools now.

A) Asana allows you to assign projects and then see on the righthand side of the app, who has the project and what stage they are currently in, such as just started or completed. You can chart your course for smooth sailing through the entire project. In Asana, there is a feature called, “Timeline,” where you can see the flow of work and where it is being passed to the next team member for their actions. There are over 100 items you can integrate into Asana, such as emails and all pertinent files.

B) Basecamp works in the same way and has features to remind people when a task is overdue. One thing that bogs any business down, is endless meetings. With Basecamp, it eliminates the need for time wasting meetings as everyone on the team can log-in and see where the project is at.

Basecamp states that 59% of meetings have been cut out by its users. Basecamp is simple to use and there is no steep learning curve, so anyone can jump right in. Basecamp is great for multiple projects, since you can pull them up all onto one screen and see the status.

All conversations on inline and this elimates that annoying re: factor you get in traditional emails. Cut down on the number of apps you normally used in projects, because in Basecamp, all notifications are in one spot.

C) Trello works on a board system, where all aspects on your projects are listed on individual cards that you can glance at. You can view a card like, “research,” and jump in with a comment or attach a file that will assist in the research end of the project. If your team is already using apps, you can incorporate those right into the Trello card to maximize productivity.

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Breaking Goal Setting Down To Maximize Success

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How do you move a mountain? One shovelful at a time. It’s a cute saying, but how many of us grab the shovel and start frantically banging away at the mountain, trying to whittle it down through sheer brute force?

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the size of the mountain. It’s easy to get frustrated and angry because the challenge seems insurmountable.

That’s why so many ideas to help change your life fail—the frustration gives us an out, a way to rid ourselves of something so vast. It’s an open invitation for defeatism and defeatist thinking.

So how do you move a mountain? You make it into a series of tasks. You have the end goal; now you have to make your timeline. The catch is – you need to make it backward. You need to start with the year-long goal first and then slice it into 12 parts (one for each month).

Then slice each of those into four sections (one for each week) and then each of those into seven (one for each day). See the pattern?

Let’s look at this in a little more detail:

Figure Out Your Big Year-Long Goals


Although it might not be the whole mountain that you’re looking at, your yearly goal should be BIG. At least big enough to be a little scary.

There is wisdom in the expression that “it’s only the frightening things that keep us interested.”

What’s big enough to be a little bit frightening without taking you off into the world of outright terror? What will challenge you this year?

Most of our big goals run into a few general categories.

  • Career. Are you looking for a new job or a promotion? Do you want to leave a low-paying job and get something with a better future or more in line with what you like to do? Is there something you’ve always wanted to do that would boost your career significantly (like gaining certification or additional training) but that you’ve never taken the time to do? Now might be the time.
  • Heath and fitness. Many people make goals to get “healthy.” The problem with that this kind of goal is not measurable. “Healthy” can mean many things to different people. Does “healthy” mean losing weight? Not necessarily. It could be exercising more. It could be eating better and less junk food. It could mean making sure you get enough sleep at night. Be specific in your goal. Ask yourself how it can be measured and quantified.
  • Fun. This goal is also rather vague. What do you consider to be “fun?” For some, a day at the beach would be fun, for others, it would boring. Often “fun” is used as a placeholder for some activity that involves being alone or alone with a significant other. Think about times in the past that you considered ‘fun.’ What were the elements in common? Create a goal then that incorporates those elements. If fun is your goal, be specific about what fun means to you.
  • Relationships. This goal often arises in several parts. Sometimes we want to have a relationship, whether friendship or romantic, that we don’t already have. Or it might be we want to strengthen an existing relationship. Ask yourself where in your relationships you need the most help. Remember that you might need to enlist the cooperation of the person you’re having the relationship with to succeed here. Resolving to spend more time with a person only works if they’re likewise interested in spending more time with you.
  • Giving. Donating to your favorite charity is the most obvious goal in this category, but it might be that you’d like to take your commitment to the cause a little deeper this year. Consider giving your time and talent to your community. But don’t forget that giving time to your family also counts here. Often we become so caught up in work and the pressure to earn money and support the family, that we sacrifice the time we could be spending with them. Re-evaluate where you give your time, and then consciously choose where you want to spend it.

Instead of making a New Year’s resolution, sit down for an hour or so and daydream about this time next year. What do you want this year to look like at the end of it? Who do you want to be in this year? Be specific. And don’t worry about “how.” That part comes later. Just figure out the “what” for now.

Decide what you can reasonably do in a month. If you’re taking a rock here and there from the mountain, it will never look any different. You need to concentrate on one small part at a time. Go back to that year-long goal and pick something that you can realistically do in a month.

Now, schedule a re-occurring appointment with yourself once per month to reflect on the progress you’ve made so far on this goal. Look at the long-term plan, the mountain you’re going to move (because you are going to push it), and fix what you can accomplish in the next 30 days. Write that down too.

Take the mountain out in monthly chunks. If your overall goal is to change your career, one month might involve learning a new skill set, say a programming language. The next month might be getting real-world experience by designing and building a website for a charity for free, just as a demonstration project.

Break That Down Into Weekly Goals


This time, the re-occurring meeting with yourself is once each week. It can be a shorter meeting, about 15 – 20 minutes to plan out some steps you can take to get closer to your goal in the next seven days.

Write these down. For example, using the idea of working toward a change in careers, week one might be researching the best programming languages to study and which ones are in highest demand. Week two might be working through the first half of the book or video course you have on learning the language, while week three would be finishing the book and making some test programs, and so on.

Maybe you won’t have a finished web page or object-oriented database interface by the end of the week, but you’re making progress to get you there.

Now you’re ready to look at the wheelbarrow full of rocks. In the morning, jot down your to-do list for the goal you have in mind. Following the previous example, you might be doing the next three lessons in the language tutorial, finding a server to create pages on, or learning how to create that database.

Dividing the mountain into successively smaller and smaller pieces makes it easy to see how daily goals become weekly become monthly become annual goals, and moving the mountain suddenly becomes doable. If nothing else, it removes the overwhelming initial fear of trying.

This type of planning is flexible and powerful. Instead of saying, “I am moving that mountain,” all you’re saying is “I have a wheelbarrow full of rocks to put over there.” You still have the scary, impressive goal to aim for, but you’ve made it manageable. It’s now broken into bite-sized chunks that you can handle on a day to day basis.

Take control. No one will care about your goals like you will. The timeline here is yours, so take ownership of it. Our calendars control too many of us, instead of us being in control of our calendars.

One final note: Do you know someone that cannot make a move without checking their calendar? Are you one of them? If so, you might be begrudging the time set aside for contemplation each week or each month to get caught up on the progress. Don’t. It’s your schedule, and the end goal is worth the time. If that weren’t the case, you wouldn’t have gotten this far.

You have work/school/kids to work around your schedule. That’s understandable. Few of us do not have a full dance card. But isn’t achieving this beautiful far-flung dream worth skipping an hour of TV each week? What if you sacrificed that time you’d spend playing that game on your phone, or checking Facebook?

Prioritize the time in your week/month by the core values you have. How important is this goal? Where does it rank against the other items in your to-do list? Spending time with the family might be more critical, but maybe spending time vacuuming isn’t.

This fact is especially important for children. Trying to achieve a balance between work and family, and still finding time for some self-investment is a delicate thing. Remember that word – this is an investment. You are investing time and energy and even money into your future. Keep in mind; the payout will benefit you as well as your family.

While this tool is a form of time management, it’s a different type. It’s counting down, making the goal smaller and smaller instead of planning. You’re planning backward – to go forward. Stay the course, and those yearly goals won’t know what hit them!

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Learning To Think Big And Aim High To Achieve Success

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When you think of success, do you envision oodles of money, a mansion, and a fancy sports car? Those items are great, but what about a deeper sense of success – a success beyond your wildest dreams?

If you’re like most readers of internet articles, websites and blogs, you’ve probably heard some success stories where ordinary folks like yourself have gone from rags to riches scenarios.

However, and more importantly, there are even better stories out there. Like the stories of entrepreneurs and business people leaving their corporate world to go and sell ice cream somewhere in the Caribbean. They, too, are abundantly happy and successful.

What makes up success?

Success is a personal definition – for some, it’s lots of money, and for others, it’s fulfillment and for others it’s freedom. Some people want to live in a mansion overlooking the ocean, while others want to live in a cottage by the lake or down at the farm.

Bottom line – success is what you say it is.

Want to know something even more powerful? Success is even what you say it isn’t. You get in your own way.

Let’s start with defining your own success. Here are a few tips on how to define what success is to you and only you:

  1. What’s your why – we all have a vision of what success looks like to us. However, taking this notion one step further, ask yourself some key questions. What is your why is the first question. Why do you want to achieve this particular success?

Dig deep down and quietly meditate on your true calling, passion and purpose. Everyone has one and it’s only a matter of time before you are one of millions asking yourself, “Is there something than this?”

What is the why behind your success? Do you wish to reach thousands of people and make a difference?

Do you wish to help hundreds solve a problem you have experience with? Do you value freedom over material objects and items? Start getting in touch with your why.

  1. What’s the most important thing to you? Do you value financial freedom, being of service, freedom to come and go as you please, the ability to create a flexible schedule which works for you and your family?

Once you get in touch with your why, your core need and desire will become to come to light. If you have a driving need to be your own boss or a passionate purpose to help others beyond your wildest dreams, this will come to light as well. Once you know your why, your core desire will come to the surface.

  1. What actions steps do you need to take, and what does it look like to make it come to life? Once you’ve done the work to uncover your own definition of success, what your why is, and what’s the most important thing to you, it’s time to take a trip outside of your head and beyond your comfort zone into the world of action. While it’s nice to get inside your head and get in touch with your why and your what, it’s even more important to get in touch with the how. How will you make it happen?

The 7 Categories of Life and How to Succeed in Each

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Let’s take a look at several categories of life and how to succeed in each one.


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We all have so much going on in life. There’s work, career, school, home and family. The list goes on and on. It’s so easy to lose sight of what our personal goals are. We might want to finish a degree, complete a certificate, write a book or just learn a hobby or skill.

We say we don’t have time, but the truth is we don’t make time. Have you ever noticed if there’s something you truly wanted to do, you find the time to do it? Even if means taking a sick day and doing nothing once in a while.

Bouncing from this, here are a few tips on how to create personal goals and how to achieve them:

  • Choose one goal at a time – we all have the habit of getting overzealous in our personal goals and start out wanting to lose weight, diet and exercise, clean out clutter, take a class, earn a certificate, etc. and then we spiral out of control and fail at all of the above.
  • Worse than this, we stop trying because we climbed too high, too fast and fell way too short. Start with smaller goals. It’s almost like a no-fail system. It’s a win/win. Start with one goal – even the type A personalities out there can do this. By starting with one goal and one goal only, you have no place to go but up.
  • If you want to learn a new sport or skill, for example, start by simply exploring what’s involved a little bit at a time. Don’t take out 15 books from the library, talk to 20 different people about it and research for hours on end on the internet.
  • Talking to too many different people will only leave you vulnerable, especially when it comes to personal goals. Other people don’t want to leave their comfort zone and they want you to stay there with them as well. Spend small increments of time each day and set the timer. Spend 30 minutes one day and 15 minutes another researching your new personal goal and stop there.
  • Pick one person you trust to talk to about your fears, excitement and concerns.
  • Pick an action step for the week and stick to it. Get an accountability partner you will have to report to.
  • Continue to reward yourself as you go along and reach these milestones.
  • Slowly begin to incorporate this new goal into your life through small, actionable and measurable steps.
  • Acknowledge the success you are feeling on a small scale as time goes on. Don’t rush and don’t get ahead of yourself.
  • Notice you are gaining momentum on your goal. It’s not bigger than you. It’s actually happening in smaller increments.
  • Begin to get excited, and it will show. Power tip – the more you get excited about what you are doing, the more inspired you will feel and the more momentum you will create.



Career goals may be a little easier to achieve than personal goals. When it comes to personal goals, you get up inside your head and you think or feel too much. It’s easier to set career goals and detach from them in a colder more logical way of thinking.

  • Examine and explore which area of your career is not working.
  • Ask yourself what your end goal is – do you want to retire earlier, work fewer hours, or have more power? What is your end goal?
  • Once you have discovered your end goal, start creating a plan of action.
  • Pick five action steps, beginning with the smallest.
  • Record them on paper.
  • Take one small action step per day for a set amount of time – let’s use an example of three weeks. Take one small action step per day for three weeks to get closer to the second action step. For example, you may want to show up earlier or on time for three weeks or you may want to speak up at meetings where as you never did so before.
  • You may want to earn a certificate which will put you in line for more money or a promotion. You may want to take on more responsibility at work to show your new boss what you are capable of.
  • Continue using this model until all five action steps are completed and you have arrived at your career goal.


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When it comes to thinking and aiming big, you want to have success in all areas of your life. Success is not related to only money and career. Success in relationships equates to thinking and aiming big in all areas of your life.

In order to have big success in relationships, you need to think big. So many times, or actually all times, we come into relationships and bring into them every single relationship we’ve ever had in the past from our parents to our siblings.

If you want big things in relationships, you have to put big goals into them.

  • A successful relationship means being honest with who you are and also how you show up. It’s so easy to play the blame game in relationships without looking to take some responsibility of our own. It’s important to take a look at our actions, our thoughts, and our pre-conceived notions when we are relating to others.
  • Relationships are not just love interests. Relationships are people we work with and people we don’t even know in line in the supermarket. How we can show up as a contribution to the other person is always a tough question to ask. However, when you ask this question, you come up with a brilliant solution. What if you were to just express your anger without blaming someone else?

Do you see how this could equate to a successful solution? In business, when a boss or CEO blames their employee, their employee becomes defensive and less cooperative. It just makes sense. However, when a CEO guides and leads by example and makes reasonable requests for change and prosperity, people will follow suit. This is the true meaning of a successful relationship. This works in personal relationships as well as career and other relationships.


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Money has got to be one of the biggest blocks there is. Money has so much power to control us if we let it. Here are a few action steps to take around having success in the area of finances:

  • What’s your story? We all have stories around money. It’s your job to uncover your story. Do you believe you’re not good enough to make that kind of money or do you believe only greedy people have and receive money? Do you tell yourself a story that only people who are better, smarter or more worthy will have money? Define your story.
  • Once you uncover your negative money story and self-sabotaging habits surrounding money, you can now write your own brand new story.
  • Start practicing positive affirmations around money. I can have more money flow easily into my life and for positive reasons. I can create abundance. I already am in flow and creating abundance. I feel so excited about the abundance of money coming my way. Financial prosperity is possible in my life.
  • Practice these daily, several times a day, visualize on them and meditate on them if you truly want financial abundance. It’s not a work harder/make more scenario. It’s about being in ease and in flow.

Life Purpose


We all inherently know what our life purpose is, but we manage to use several negative tools against ourselves.

  • We self-sabotage. The minute we feel we are close to success, we make excuses, we run back to our comfort zone, we fear success or believe subconsciously we don’t deserve success.
  • We get comfortable in our comfort zone. We make excuses instead of making changes. We back slide and then feel guilty and miserable. We allow life to get in the way.
  • We are not aware of our own blocks because we live in a busy world with busy minds.

If you want to find success and pursue your life purpose, you need to:

  • Get out of your head and into your heart. Sometimes we all suffer from what is known as analysis/paralysis. We think too much and we don’t drop down into our own hearts.
  • Take time to be quiet and sit still. Whether you go to the beach or the boardwalk or the park, you need to schedule time in to be quiet. As odd as it may sound, scheduling time to be quiet will actually help you to get into the process of being quiet anywhere, anytime randomly.
  • When you sit still and get quiet, you can actually hear a little better than you normally do when there is so much noise in your head.
  • Take notes. Take time to journal your thoughts and feelings on paper. When you journal, you don’t have to worry about filters. You don’t have to worry about what people will say, respond or how they think.
  • Write your private thoughts, dreams, desires and wishes for your life purpose down on paper.
  • Get clear. Once you take on the practice of getting quiet and being still, you now have the opportunity to get clear. To clear your mind of the clutter. To make clear goals. Taking notes is a great way to get clear. Once you get clear, it’s time to take some of those action steps as previously mentioned.
  • Make a declaration. Once you are clear, start declaring your life purpose. Make positive and happy statements about how excited you are about pursuing your life purpose. Keep it simple, don’t elaborate and allow people to ask their questions.
  • You don’t have to have all the answers. When you don’t have the answers, don’t doubt yourself, just simply be open to finding the answers. Keep declaring your passion and purpose anyhow. The answers will come in time.


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Have you ever looked at somebody and wondered to yourself how they did it? Lots of people feel the same way about others who are successful. We tend to look at others and think they are lucky or they get all the breaks or their husband/wife/parent made it happen or they come from money.

When it comes to prosperity, it is vital to understand you don’t wait for prosperity and abundance to come to you. You create it.

Choose an area in your life where you want more prosperity. Is it in your career, your financial status, credit card debt or savings and retirement?

Once you’ve honed in on an area, take the following steps to create prosperity:

Prosperity is a mindset

Once you understand prosperity is a mindset, the rest will flow. Prosperity is not something that happens to you. It is something you make happen. Change your mindset around prosperity.

Your subconscious mind is solely responsible for all of your habits, even your prosperity habits. In order to tap into the power and leverage of the subconscious mind, you will need to work on creating new mindset habits.

  • Positive thoughts create prosperity. Your subconscious mind only knows its past history. All the stories, the negativity, and the events are ingrained in your subconscious mind.
  • If you allow your subconscious mind to rule the roost, you will see the same habits and the same trends without much change. Begin to reprogram your conscious mind with positive thoughts and, over time, this practice will show you how quickly and easily you can create prosperity and success into your life.
  • Take on the practice of positive thinking. You don’t necessarily have to make things up if you are not at that stage, however, you should take on the practice of what is working as compared to what is not. The more you focus on what is well in your world, the more enhanced wonderful things will appear and magnify in your life.


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Success in spirituality comes when you allow and accept what works for you. No one can tell you what, how, when or where to practice your spirituality or what spiritual practices you should take on.

Spirituality success comes when you accept who you are and what works for you.

Once you get beyond the mind and the ego, you can tap into spiritual success. Spiritual success comes from one very important tool – practice.

You need to try on many different things until you find the one or the combination which works for you.

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Is Stress Wrecking Your Life?


Stress has become an epidemic in peoples’ lives. They can’t cope. They’re turning to all kinds of helpful people and products in a desperate effort to get relief from what seems like a constant barrage of turmoil.

If stress has sent your cortisol levels soaring and you can’t seem to get a grip on what you can do to control things and turn chaos into calm, then you need to analyze how bad the problem is so you can pick and choose methods and strategies that will alleviate this pressure.

Do You Feel Like You Just Want To Get Away?


One way you can determine whether or not stress has catapulted out of control is to think about the times when you feel significantly stressed. Sometimes, people will start out feeling stressed only in certain situations.

This might be just while you’re stuck in traffic, or only when you’re at work. Maybe even specifically when one person comes around, like an in-law or intrusive neighbor. But then you start to notice that the stress never really goes away.

It’s haunting you all of the time – day and night, at work, at home, when you’re around anyone and everyone – and even when you’re all by yourself. It’s no longer situational – it’s chronic, and that’s when stress is at its most damaging.

You start to realize that there’s no safe place for you to go to anymore. It used to be, a hard day at work was manageable – as long as you could escape at 5 o’clock and go to the comfort of your own home.

But if you wake up and go to bed filled with stress, and experience it throughout your entire work day, it means you’re under constant attack, and that’s not healthy for you emotionally or physically.

Your outlook may change to where you just want to escape it all – everyone and everything that’s causing you trouble. Just pack up your car and disappear – or at least get out of town where you’re not subjected to this chaos and commotion 24/7.

Everyone deserves to have space where they feel relaxed, protected and at ease. If you don’t have that in your life right now, running away isn’t the answer – you simply need to carve out some time and an area where you’re able to release the pressure of the day and enjoy a moment of peace and quiet or fun and entertainment.

You may need to get organized for that to happen, or change something big about your life, such as who’s in it or where you work. You’re not stuck in the situation – it’s just that you’ve been avoiding making those tough decisions.

Are You Taking It Out On Others?


When you’re dealing with a chronic stress situation that’s wreaking havoc on your life, you start to change. Your entire demeanor – the tone of your voice, the way you walk, the expression on your face – is all altered in a way that shows the world you’re under duress.

Your actions change as well. You begin treating people differently – even if they’re not the ones responsible for the upheaval in your life. You may not be aware that you’re doing it.

Or maybe you’re aware, but you feel helpless about changing your ways – especially when burdened with so much stress lately. You need to start thinking about how you’ve been treating others.

Start with your kids – have you noticed that you’re short with them lately? If they don’t do something on the first request, you lash out maybe more than you should? They won’t tell you, because it’s intimidating, and you don’t want to ruin your relationship with them.

How about your spouse? Does everything they do and say get on your nerves lately? Do you find yourself avoiding time with them or not reacting whenever they try to interact with you?

Maybe you’re feeling like every second you have to be at work is a nightmare – you can’t stand your coworkers, your boss or even your customers and clients. This is a sign that you’re not handling your stress load very well.

Sometimes, even well meaning friends and family can grate on your last nerve and you realize you’re just extremely grumpy with everyone and you’ve begun avoiding any kind of socialization.

You may shut yourself off from the world, or worse – lash out at others with yelling and a very visible, irritated demeanor. And maybe they even did something to deserve your wrath, who knows?

But the fact is, you not being able to handle life around others is a detriment to you – no one else. It’s you who will suffer and you don’t want to go about your day feeling like this.

So the first thing you need to do is analyze your true nature of interaction with others. Then, learn how you can diffuse your anger or irritation before you react to whatever has annoyed you.

It may be something as simple as taking a deep breath before you speak, or you may have to dig down and do some introspective work on yourself and why you’re not handling stress very well.

Are You So Confused You Can’t See A Way Out?

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Confusion is one of the many symptoms of stress overload. You may get brain fog, or simply feel so overwhelmed that you can’t cope and you can’t focus on how to get better – it’s all too much.

But you have to be proactive about this. You have to simmer down and get unfrazzled so that you can learn to exist in life without a negative reaction to everything and everyone.

The first thing you need to do is take inventory of what’s going on that has you feeling so undone. Is it relationships? Finances? Physical issues? It can be a combination of many things, but you need to stop, spend a few minutes and write it all down.

What’s bothering you? Get it spelled out because you’ll need that list later when you’re addressing each issue individually. Next, rate the stress of those issues on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the most stressful.

Something might annoy you, like the kids not picking up their toys at the end of the day, but it’s a minor irritant and not as stressful as a coworker who dumps their entire workload on you every day while they surf the ‘net.

Once you get everything rated, start from the minor irritations and work your way up. Smaller things will be easier for you to handle, and as each one lifts with a solutions, you’ll feel stronger in handling the major issues.

For example, it may be as simple as promising the kids that if they pick up their toys every night, they each get to choose one family meal per week – or maybe you give them each an allowance for doing it.

When the minor stuff is handled, it will be time to turn to the major stress. You want to formulate a plan on how to handle this – how you’re going to approach any other parties involved, compromises you’re willing to accept, and so on.

You also want to have a back up plan. Think about if things don’t go your way when you try to solve the problem. What then? You want to have a reaction ready so that you don’t fly off the handle and feel overwhelmed again.

You also want to have some scenarios in place so that you can find a backup solution. For example, you could approach your coworker to discuss the issue, or simply refuse to take on their additional work. Or, you may have to take the matter up with your supervisor, but being ready calms your nerves.

Can You See Physical Symptoms?


Whenever stress takes a toll over the course of weeks, months or years, your emotional state seeps into your physical health, and you begin to suffer the consequences of not handling stress in a better way.

You might suffer from pain. Pain is a direct result of feeling too much stress, so you might suddenly notice you’re getting more headaches. Maybe they even feel so strong, they resemble migraines.

You can suffer from other aches and pains, too. For example, most people who have stress at work end up experiencing pain in their neck or back from time to time. The stress is a result of tension in your muscles.

The tension is how your body braces for the overwhelming feelings you have whenever stressful situations occur. You can’t relax, so those tense muscles eventually hurt, and that pain creates even more stress.

Hair loss is another common physical side effect from stress that both men and women endure. You may notice it a little at first, and suddenly your entire hair line has changed due to the extreme amount of stress that you’re under.

Insomnia, or a lack of ability to get and stay asleep, is yet another physical toll stress takes on your body. Sleep is crucial to helping you manage stress, and you may find it hard to sleep when stressed – but when you don’t get sleep, it stresses you out even more – it’s a horrible cycle.

Digestive issues often show up as physical symptoms from stress overload. This can range from constipation to irritable bowel syndrome. You might have an upset stomach, acid reflux or any sort of digestive problem when your stress levels are high.

You have to watch out for your physical well-being. If you start suffering health issues, that’s going to compound with the stress you already have on your plate, making things worse.

So whenever you begin noticing physical ailments during particularly stressful times, make sure you implement a good health regiment. Start with sleep. You want to improve your sleep hygiene so that you’re easily able to fall asleep each night.

Next, work on nutrition. Eat foods that sustain your energy levels and don’t cause a crash in energy, like processed, sugary foods do. Add exercise to the mix once you master nutrition.

Movement will help boost endorphins. And then, start pampering yourself with emotional stress relief options that help you relax and take some of the load off of you each and every day.

Has Stress Become Your Norm?


It’s unfortunate when you accept the way life is – even if your stress levels are out of control. But that’s what many people do. They think this is just how life is, and maybe someday it’ll turn around for them.

Life doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t have to accept that overbearing stress is a normal way to live. You simply have to make a firm decision to change the way things are for you.

Refuse to accept the status quo – even if others are okay with going through the motions. You don’t have to. You get to choose how pleasant life will be for you, and even if you can’t remember a time when life wasn’t stressful, your new life can begin today.

Once upon a time, you had dreams of how life would be. You knew you wanted relationships to be a certain way. You had an idea of what kind of career you wanted. But maybe things didn’t turn out that way.

Now is the time to start planning for a renovation of your life – one with far less stress. One where you’re surrounded by people you get along with and people you love and who love you.

This new life you create begins with new routines that make you feel satisfied each day – whether it’s how you wake up and start your day or how you end it each night. You might add exercise to the mix, or meal planning.

You’ll want to set aside time each day to nurture yourself. Because nobody else will take care of your needs the way you will. Buy yourself some aromatherapy products or something to improve sleep as an investment in your future happiness.

Shake things up with a new schedule. If you’ve been used to going to bed at 11 PM and waking up at 5, switch it to an earlier bedtime so you get one extra hour of sleep each night.

If certain things cause you daily stress, such as traffic jams, look for another route that’s less congested – and invest in an audiobook to listen to as you drive instead of depressing news talk radio to start your day.

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The Most Important Goal To Set To Achieve Success

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If you want to be successful in life, whether that be in business, relationships or anything else, I’m sure that you know about the importance of setting goals to help you achieve the results you desire.

But can I ask you a question?

Do you know what the most important kind of goal is for your life?

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We all have goals that we set and we know the importance of goal setting and it’s one of those topics that gets beaten to death and a lot of us don’t want to hear about goal setting anymore.

We’re sick and tired of goal setting.  But we know they’re necessary as well, and that’s why we always come back to them. 

You do, I do, we all do goal setting at one level or another.  Maybe you just do it mentally and you think about them from time to time.

Other people like me, I’m very, very strict about my goals.  I’m always writing them down and refining them.

But there are different kinds, and this is a very, very critical aspect. 

There is a type of goal where you define what you want to do, there is a type of goal where you define what you want to have and there’s also a kind of goal where you define who you want to be.

The kind of person you want to be.

It’s the third one, the goals you set on the type of person you want to be, that are the most pivotal, most important and most influential in your life.

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Your material wants or even bigger wants than that, the things you would like to acquire, the things you would like to eventually achieve in your life, some you’ll hit and some you’ll won’t.

Some will take longer than planned, some you’ll maybe get shorter than you planned.  They’re going to be all over the map.

As an example, you may be at a certain financial position right now.  Let’s say you’re earning $50,000 a year and you want to take that to $100,000.

There are a number of different ways you could do that.  You could set a goal to do that within the next year, the next six months or the next three years and you go after it.

You may or may not hit the goal, and you may or may not try as hard as you can, although the whole point of goal setting is you do try and you go for it.

But this is a measurable, specific thing that you’re shooting for and you may or may not get there.


There’s all kinds of circumstances, things that could come up that could prevent it from happening.

But think about the type of goal where you decide who you want to be, and the exercise of writing down your goals on a daily basis and reviewing them. 

Sure, you can have a plan that says I want to get from 50k to 100k and I’m going to do this, this, this and this over the next X amount of months or years and you do those things and that plan may or may not work.

But what if you started asking yourself or writing a goal down to say, here’s who I want to be.

I want to be a positive and uplifting person.  I want to be loving towards my family.  Every time I see my family I want them to feel excited in my presence.  I want them to feel uplifted.

I want them to feel inspired.  When I meet new people I want them to feel like they just met somebody really interesting, and they want to get to know me at a deeper level.

I want to set a goal to be the kind of person that follows through on every commitment I make to myself.

I’m going to achieve XYZ by a certain date, such as I’m going to lose 20 pounds by March 30th is very results driven.  It’s very achievement driven, and the timeline for that may change.

You don’t know how quickly you can lose that weight and you want to be able to do it in a healthy way, so you may have to adjust that plan.

But who do you have to be to reach that weight?

You have to be the kind of person who commits to their goals, who does whatever it takes, who when they say they’re going to do something they do it and follow through and hold themselves accountable.

So here’s my challenge to you, or even call it a suggestion or tip.

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Begin journaling on a daily basis, writing down where you’re at but more importantly where you want to go, goals.

It’s very fun to set goals like the type of income you want to earn, the type of business you want to run, the trips you want to take, the material possessions you want to own.  All those things are cool. 

If you want to go to a conference next year to learn something new, write that down.  That’s a great goal to have.  You need to know how much money it’s going to take you to get there and all that.

But I also want you to start thinking about two or three or even four who do I want to be type of goals.

What I found is when I started doing this, I started writing things down like I want to be an inspiring person to be around for my family.

I want my family to feel loved and excited when I’m around.  I want my family to run and give me a huge hug when I walk in the door after being gone for a long time.  That’s the kind of person I want to be.

When I write that down and remind myself this is who I want to be, all those other goals I find come to me a little bit more naturally.  They come to me easier.

It’s because I’m acting and behaving in a way that’s congruent with those goals.


If I say I want to be a committed, dedicated person who follows through on his commitments and then I set a really, really aggressive goal like doubling my income in what some may deem an unrealistic period of time, I’m way more likely to hit that goal if I’m the kind of person who sticks to his commitments and then goes above and beyond the call of duty and does whatever it takes in any situation to create whatever I envision.

So that’s the difference.  That’s the key.  You may not have done this before.  I know it was a relatively new concept for me.

I was always writing down my materials wants.  I was always writing down the achievement-based goals and not the who do I want to be kind of goals.

When I started doing that, it had such a deep impact on a daily basis. 

It literally, in those moments of weakness where I wanted to break a commitment and go back into an old habit that would have prevented those cool goals from coming into my life, these being goals would remind me of the kind of person I need to be and I want to be and intend to do.

I want to live this way every single day, and so I write those goals down on a daily basis and it keeps me in check.  It keeps me on track for where I want to go.

So do this.  Have some fun with it.  Think about the kind of person you want to be, write it down, explain it in as much detail and then do it daily and repeat it to yourself and start living this way.

All those material goals and wants are going to come to you.  


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Boosting Your Self Confidence

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The amount of self-confidence we have as adults, is usually formed from our experiences as a child. Self-confidence and self-esteem are tied into our frame of reference for our world.

When we are small and make a mistake, like spilling a glass of milk all over the table, our first instinct is to look at our parents faces. Their expression tells us first and foremost how this little accident is going to be perceived.

Next, the tone of voice that one or both our parents uses…gives our subconscious mind a reference that is stored.

Oh my goodness, you always do that!” can be layered one on top of another in our minds, so that eventually, we believe that our mistakes are predestined and that there is little that we can do to prevent it.

Our parents, friends and teachers, have a way of presenting and saying things that eventually our brains come to one conclusion.

We decide without really knowing it, that we are not good enough.

When we want to try something new, like ask someone out on a date for the first time, we may logically believe that we have a chance but the little voice in the back of our heads, is telling us that we shouldn’t even try because we aren’t good enough for that person we desire to be with.

Do You Suffer From Low Self Confidence?

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We have low self-confidence in some areas but are we totally unconfident?

Really if we think about it the answer would have to be no, we have lots of confidence. We may have developed a great deal of confidence in hitting a baseball or throwing a football.

In school, we might have a great ability to do math and are confident that our math grade will be well above 90%.

In reality, there are many things that we are confident about. It is the small number of things that give us trouble or concern, that causes us to label ourselves as unconfident.

Reframe Your Feelings

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The best time to rid of ourselves of that feeling, is the moment that we discover we have it. We need to relabel those feelings, to saying things to ourselves like, “I am having a bit of an issue with this right now, but I will figure out a way to solve it quickly.”

Here is another one. “I feel nervous, but I know that it is just a feeling, nothing more, it is not real and it cannot hurt me. I will do it anyway, not matter how my stomach feels. When I do it, then I will feel awesome!”

In order to act on a fear that is making you unconfident, you have to understand that you will not die from picking up the phone and making a call that has to made.

There will be no physical injury from going across the room and talking to that person who is very desirable to you. Act as if you are confident. Walk and talk as if you have the same amount of confidence as your favorite athlete.

Low self-confidence can hold you back from getting the job you desire or the mate that you want so much and would marry if possible.

Allowing incidents of being unconfident will stack in your brain, like a pile of dinner plates in the cupboard. Eventually all those plates may cause strain…wear and tear on the cupboard.

Soon everything crashes down. When you find someone to love and marry, you may end up having children. Stop and think how your world of being unconfident will affect any children you may have.

Children are the world’s best mimics. They see that you are afraid to talk on the phone and they may become phone phobic.

Have you ever seen a person who gets upset when their spouse is always late coming home from work? They are not confident and have low self-esteem.

They develop an internal dialogue that tells them they are not worthwhile, and their spouse is probably cheating on them right now. That is the reason why they are late.

Observe the children in this instance. We can use a female child for the example and this child sees that every time her father is late, the mother becomes upset and works herself into a frenzy.

It is quite possible that the child will soon have a response that every time the clock hits a certain time and the father does not show up, the child starts to cry.

They are now developing a confidence of the wrong type. They are confident their father is hurt, or their father is a bad person who may be cheating. Later in life, they may feel that all men are capable of being bad and possibly unfaithful. It is stacking to the extreme.

There are many great books and courses on building self-confidence as well as some really incredible software. Here is a recommended software to help you reprogram your mind and have increased self-confidence and success: Mindzoom

Develop Daily Routines To Boost Confidence

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Self-confidence is a daily practice. You need to exercise that confident feeling to keep it strong and flexible. Let’s look at three ways that you can do this and then you apply it to your life right now.

Eliminating negative self-talk is huge in the daily practice of self- confidence. You need to monitor what negative self-talk you have and when you have it.

Be very mindful of how you speak to yourself. Having a journal based on your self-talk, will allow you to write out what you are saying and why? You can review your bad habit and change it to a good habit.

For instance, if you watch carefully and you notice that every time you are in a staff meeting, you get anxious because you know that your opinion will be consulted, take note of what you are saying to yourself to cause this feeling.

When you sit in the meeting and find yourself hoping that they will skip over you and that you don’t want to speak because your ideas are not worthy, write that down.

Then write down all the reasons why your ideas are worthy. Pretend that you are in the meeting alone and starting to speak. Would you hesitate? Of course not. You would present the ideas in the best of your ability.

Understand that the opinions of others, are just that…opinions, not reality. Face the fear of speaking and just do it. Build that muscle of facing a fear and soon, you will be strong

Power Up Your Morning

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Hit the ground running when you wake up. How do you do this? Simply by not allowing your mind to play negative movies over and over in your mind, while you sleep.

You dream about the last thoughts that you had before you drifted off to deep sleep. When you wake, you may not understand that uncomfortable dream you had.

However, the negative thoughts that you had, are layered into the dream and take on other roles. To prepare your mind for positive dreams, leading to a positive awakening, state a new belief about yourself over and over until you drift off to sleep.

Try something like, “I love to express my business ideas in a packed meeting. I contribute!” The next meeting you have, you will feel energetic and excited about sharing ideas that will help the growth of your company.

Be compassionate with yourself. Treat yourself as you would treat a friend you have had since childhood. When things don’t go as planned, don’t beat yourself up.

Instead, encourage yourself and tell the inner you, that next time things are going to be gold. We all have moments of so-called failure. If we choose to learn from these moments, we grow. If we choose to be demeaning to ourselves, we wither.

Even the best of the best in athletics have times when things don’t work out for them. Look at Tiger Woods for a great example. He was at the very top of his game, but his health and other things lead him to fall from number 1 in golf to lower than 200 in the world.

He could have said to himself that he was a failure. But Tiger Woods has a winning mindset. For every setback, he works twice as hard to excel. If you could look inside Tiger Woods mind, you would see a strong focused mind, with a lot of self-confidence. Tiger knows he can be number 1 in the world of golf again.


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Practice daily visualization of the “new” you. One of the reasons that actors become actors, is because they are unhappy with who they are.

In turning into someone completely different for a movie, during that time they immerse themselves into a role. Perhaps that role may be that of a leading man or someone who is very funny and happy.

But what we find, is that this is a time limited action and after the movie is over, they sometimes revert to the sad and unconfident person they are in reality.

When someone who is loved and admired as an actor, takes their own life, we are saddened and surprised. We see them on screen or at movie premiers and they seem to have it all.

However, they have never learned to be the happy self-confident person they want to be in real life. You can visualize and direct yourself to be the person you have always desired to be.

In this, you are not acting, but actually seeing yourself in your mind, becoming what you desire, day by day until it fully ingrained in your mind and body.

Don’t be upset with yourself, if you find that becoming a self-confident person is not a walk in the park. There is no harm in getting some assistance to become who you want to be.

There are courses and software that are specifically designed to help you get over any hurdles that block your way. Head over to Clickbank and review this great software: Mindzoom

The ideas presented in this software are tried and tested. You can become self-confident today.

But, you do need to take action first. Without any action, there isn’t any moving forward, instead you stay in neutral or unfortunately slide into reverse, becoming depressed and extremely anxious.

Here is to your success.

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7 Morning Routines For Peak Performance

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If you are like the vast majority of people, I am sure that you will want to be more productive and be able to work at your peak more frequently and for longer.

Working at peak performance will allow you to get more done in a shorter time and you are much more likely to achieve your goals when working in a peak state.

This acts as a positive reinforcement loop and you will get even more done so it is a key skill to develop if you want to get the best out of life and be a success in whatever you set your mind on.

Peak performance and how to achieve it is not a secret. You just need to follow and model how the super peak performers, achieve the success that you also desire.

This means sacrifice and being more than willing to step up and do things you never thought possible.

When you mention “sacrifice” people shudder and puts many off before they even give it a real shot, but nothing worth achieving is going to be easy.

Peak performers have a certain mindset, and you will need to develop this if you want to work at your peak.

They will also have certain habits and daily routines that they will use to help to put them into a peak state first thing in the morning and to stay there throughout the day.

If peak performers are using habits to start their day in a peak state, don’t you think that it would be worth developing some habits and morning routines that will help you in this way? Of course, you do!

These routines aren’t rocket science or weird; they are just simple things that can help you to start the day in a positive state and to help you make the most of the day ahead.

OK, here are 7 morning routines that you can use to develop peak performance from the minute you get up! Don’t be fooled by their simplicity, but give them a try and see what kind of difference they can make to your day and you performance and productivity.

Take A Cold Shower First Thing In The Morning

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This will definitely shake the cobwebs out of your head. Besides the alertness factor, you will be boosting your metabolism.

If you lack energy, then having a cold shower first thing in the morning will fix that.

Start with luke warm water and gradually head to a full cold shower. You should build up this practice by slowly increasing the time under the cold spray.

Perhaps start at 2 minutes the first day and go to 3 minutes the second day. Work on your tolerance at your pace rather than someone else’s.

Note: If you have health issues such as high blood pressure, check with your GP first to make sure cold showers aren’t going to affect you adversely.

Get Some Exercise


Exercise right after your cold shower. If you are in the martial arts, chances are you already do the cold showers and know how it improves your performance. Pick an exercise that makes you sweat. You want to work on your heart rate, flexibility and strength.

This means having some equipment at home or doing bodyweight exercises.

You can also hit the gym if you don’t mind the fees and other issues.

Doing exercise before you start the workday, helps with your energy levels, avoiding procrastination on work and elevating your mood.

When you get your exercise done first thing in the morning, you get a “happy,” blast of feel good natural chemicals coursing through your veins. People who suffer from depression or low moods, can use exercise to change how they feel.

Getting a good dose of oxygen from vigorous exercise works marvels for your mental health and ability to perform at peak levels.

Write It Down

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Write in your journal, while you relax for a bit after a workout.

Write down how you are feeling at the moment and what you may need to do in order to keep your brain activated for peak performance.

Journaling helps you to sort out your thoughts into a logical order instead of a jumble in your head and can give you clarity and focus which are critical for peak performance.

Practice Meditation

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Once you have written in your journal, why  not meditate about what you have written today for 5 to 10 minutes? Just be calm and let your mind flow. Inner calmness is what makes peak performers great.

As high performers get hit with adversity during the day, it flows off them and they do not allow it to affect how they feel or perform.

Meditation and mindfulness really do help you to cope with any unforeseen obstacles and can keep you focused on the task(s) at hand.

Practice Gratitude


State what you are grateful for today. You should be grateful every day you wake up and have a new chance to make it happen.

Start by being grateful for the breakfast you are about to eat for nourishment and work your way through everything else.

Be grateful for the people in your life and the ability to perform and contribute to others.

You can also ask yourself questions that can make you feel grateful and really lift your mood. Try questions like these:

“What am I really grateful for in my life right now?”

“What about that makes me feel grateful?”

“How does that make me feel?”

If you are a Christian or have a spiritual belief then you can do the same thing with prayer, giving thanks to God.

This is completely different from the questions most people ask themselves in the morning, such as “Why do I have to get up so early in the morning?”

Those types of questions make you feel lousy and will put you in a poor state for the whole day if you aren’t careful, so be very mindful of the questions you are asking yourself, especially those when you first wake up as they will impact the rest of your day!

Review Your Goals Daily

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Those goals must be firmly implanted in your mind.

With the daily review, your subconscious mind will get involved and work to make things happen. Your subconscious mind will be driven to help you succeed and become a peak performer.

Remember the saying, “You are, what you think about all day long.”

And don’t forget to enjoy the journey as well as the destination (goal). If you want to learn how to focus on enjoying the journey too, take a look at this training called Enjoy The Journey.

Practice Visualization

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Visualizing achieving those goals is another way of firmly implanting what you desire and then allowing the universe to completely understand how much you want to succeed.

When you have goals centered on peak performance, visualizing them helps to make them real.

This can take some practice, but visualization is a really powerful skill to develop so take some time to do so and you will reap the benefits.

OK, there are 7 morning routines that you can use to supercharge your day and to put you in a peak performance state so that you can be super productive and achieve anything.

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Developing Yourself To Take Action

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Have you ever spent any time studying very successful people? Do they seem to you to have something in common? There seems to be something about them, but it’s somewhat elusive, not easy to define.

Maybe you think it’s all due to lucky breaks….?

But have you ever heard the expression, “I find that the harder I work, the luckier I get.”? Something to think about, and, of course, it’s not just working hard, it’s also about working smart.

The most successful people share certain secrets. Any idea what they are? Call them ideas or call them traits, people with power or success or money seem to have these things in common:

  • The power of persistence
  • The power of passion
  • The power of self-control
  • The power decision and action
  • The power of creativity

So, let’s have a look at them and see what these superpowers can do for your life.

The Power Of Persistence

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We all know and admire people who have failed and gone on to great success. Before he invented the electric light bulb, Thomas Edison failed more than 1000 times. He never saw it as a failure; he saw it as one more step towards succeeding.

Henry Ford is another example. He came from a poor background with no education, but he looked at the horse and buggy, and saw the amazing cars we drive today.

Abraham Lincoln failed in business and in running for government several times, but we all know how he ended up.

Persistence will carry you when intelligence and luck do not. Many of us give up too soon. Winston Churchill, a hero in horrible times, is well known for this phrase,” Never, never, never, never give up.”

 Call it persistence, perseverance or grit; do you have it? And if not, can you develop and nurture it because it will definitely help you when the going gets tough (and we know life has a tendency to put obstacles in our way from time to time).

The Power Of Passion

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You’ve probably heard the expression, “if you can believe it, you can achieve it.” That’s telling us that a good idea alone is not enough. You have to believe in it. I’ll bet you know people who are very intelligent but have never risen very high in life.

And I’ll bet you know other people who haven’t had much going for them but have succeeded despite obstacles. It’s very likely due to their determination to achieve their goals despite anything that comes against them. To the extent that you can acquire this attitude, you will succeed.

It’s pretty obvious that if you don’t enjoy what you are doing then you are much more likely to give it up because it doesn’t light a fire inside you.

Can you develop a passion for something? Of course you can, but you need to stick with it long enough for that passion to develop and this is where the point above about persistence will help.

The Power Of Self-Control

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As you probably know, entrepreneurs have a lot of power over their jobs and careers, but if it’s used incorrectly, it can lead to failure. The power of self-control in business is really about the way you handle your thoughts and your emotions.

As you start to take action instead of procrastinating to manage any drivers that keep you stuck, and to focus, you will increase your ability to succeed.

The way you think can have a huge effect on the way you act and being able to exhibit self-control is an incredibly valuable superpower to develop and nurture.

The Power Of Decision And Action

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Studies have shown that one of the greatest causes of failure is lack of decision. Along with that, procrastination is the most common thing that holds people back from achieving their full potential.

Studies have also shown that millionaires make a habit of making decisions promptly and then only changing them when necessary.

Decision-making is not just about the ability to do it promptly; it’s also about having the correct information on which to base the decision.

You may need to rely on others for help or information but base your decision on the most accurate facts possible. Once you feel you have those, take action.

If you don’t take action, then any amount of planning and preparation is completely useless, and you will never reach your goals.

Action creates traction and is absolutely crucial to any type of success in life whether that be health, wealth, relationships etc.

You must be decisive and take action as quickly as you can and don’t be afraid to fail forward because this way you will at least be making some progress and you will be constantly learning what does and doesn’t work.

The Power Of Creativity

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This quality know as creativity, is seriously underrated. No doubt about it. Creativity does not just apply to writing a novel or painting a portrait; it applies to the life you create for yourself and the business you create for yourself in all their aspects.

And so much of your success will depend on how creative your solutions are.

Have you noticed? Almost every great success story in business begins with one good idea.

If you can’t think for yourself and imagine possibilities, you must depend only on what others before you have done. That might not be right for you. That might not be your best.

At its best, your plan of action will combine all these “success” qualities or traits to create a completely rewarding plan for yourself.

And when you develop these superpowers you are much more likely to create a plan of action and more importantly, to take action!

And don’t forget to enjoy the journey along the way. So many of us are totally fixated on the end result that we forget to enjoy the personal growth and achievement that happens along the way.

If that’s you then please check out this training that will encourage you to embrace the process and enjoy the journey so you can feel fulfilled before you even reach your goals which is a real win-win situation 😊

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