Have you ever felt afraid? So afraid that you couldn’t even move?
Don’t worry if you have; you are not alone!
Fear is a normal emotion. Sometimes, it can be beneficial because it makes you aware of risks, keeps you alert, and improves mental focus. However, too much fear will have the opposite effect and can paralyse you.
However, don’t fret as even the most successful people experience this feeling. The key is to prevent it from dictating your actions. To be successful at anything in life you really must “feel the fear and do it anyway!”
The Many Shades Of Fear
Unfortunately, this human emotion isn’t all black and white but rather many shades of grey. Fear can take many forms, from mild anxiety to downright debilitating overthinking.
Fear is a natural reaction to many circumstances; indeed, it developed to save us from dangerous encounters.So, yes, under certain circumstances, it can protect you from danger and stop impulsive behaviors. But, because it’s closely tied into your gut instinct, it can also help you improve your decision making.
The problem is that fear can be triggered by tiny circumstances that get blown up out of all proportion in your mind. This triggers your “fight or flight” reflex but there isn’t really anything to fight or run from, but psychologically fear has begun to sink in and it a profound effect on the quality and direction of your life.
Let’s say you want to quit your 9-to-5 job and start a creative agency or work as a freelance web designer. You might be afraid that you’ll lose time and money if things don’t work out as you planned. What if you won’t have enough clients? Or what if you get sick and can’t work anymore?
The risks are real, so it’s normal to experience fear. However, you’ll never know what you’re missing if you don’t try.
Who knows? You might have a huge success and build a loyal customer base. Five years from now on, you could have enough money to buy the home of your dreams.
Do you want to live your life wondering What if?
How To Conquer Your Fear
No matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able to get rid of fear completely. Instead, you should make it your ally and use it to fuel your dreams and goals.
Picture yourself reaching your goal, whatever it is. Imagine the worst-case scenario and then come up with a backup plan. Ask yourself: what are the facts? Am I making assumptions? What’s the best thing that can happen? Who can I call for help?
Use your fear as a source of guidance. Assess your inner fears and seek possible solutions.
Using our example above, you could start a web design side hustle in addition to your regular job. This way, if your business fails, you’ll still have an income. If it keeps growing, turn it into a full-time job. With this approach, you’ll get to do what you want and mitigate risks.
Instead of thinking you’ve “failed” and that’s it, it’s over, try to look on it as a learning experience. You now know what doesn’t work, so you are wiser than before.
Use fear to fuel your goals. Move from one “failure” to another; be glad that you know what doesn’t work so you can keep moving forward.
Used this way, fear can be a real force for good in your life and can really drive you on.
Being or feeling scared is natural. True courage comes from stepping up and carrying on regardless of being afraid and this grit is what separates the winners from the losers.
So, the next time you feel afraid, be glad about it and push forward and you will break through and grow as a person and you’ll be one step closer to where you want to be.